Friday, July 27, 2012

27/7 - Epi 307 ... Operation Woo the Wife Is On!

Friday 27th July

Well, he had a point ... he was doing his duty, he offered to pay the rent, she refused ... a man's gotta do what a man's gotta do :)

So Khushi tries a couple of places to raise the money, and has to go back to hubby pretty soon, as he has carefully cut off all her avenues of raising funds. Again, he has a point ... if she could try for loans from random Shuklaji and Happyji, then loan from hubby is surely a better bet.
But she didn't want favours from him ... that was exactly the point. Neither favours, nor a loan. She can work for him instead.
Agreed instantly ... and she's getting a good deal too ... 24 hours for 24,000 rupees.

So Arnav lands up at GH, much to the amusement of Buaji and Garima, who are tickled pink at what - or who ;) - brings him back so frequently. And very tactfully and thoughtfully, they leave the warring couple alone at home.
SN - no wonder Arnav much prefers this place to RM ... there everybody takes turns to be KMH :)) individually and together!

And he tries to trouble her ... provoke her ... hot tempered as she is, she gets angry, though not without reason ... hurts herself ... and all attempts to provoke and annoy fly out of the window ... as he takes over the right to look after her ... total Sadda Haq here ...
The exchange about the payal had a soft pathos filled sweetness to it ... the fb of the time when they first felt that overwhelming flaming hot attraction between them ... mixed with the sweetness of the memory ... her mother's payal ... and yes, he remembers ... she told him ...

And finally ... a trip catch and fall ... in that order ... what a fall it was, my countrymen ...
And what a precap ... leaving us hyperventilating all weekend??!!! :-o :x :">

Forgot ... Anjali was there too, being sweet as sugar ... but still no mention of Khushi ... 

*edited* ... not that I've recovered fully yet ;) :"> Sorry for late edit ... hectic weekend as usual!

An Arhilicious episode ... :)
Khushi having unwisely fired off her mouth at her Hotwa Hubby, now has 24 hours to come up with the money for the rent. Savings nowhere near enough ... and new prospective tenants are already at the door. She needs help ...
First try ... her erstwhile partner, Shuklaji ... whose business is down at the moment, he can't spare the money. So she wishes him well for the future ... no help here.
Next try ... friendly neighbourhood garage man, Happyji ... who was so helpful when she was trying to set up her sweet shop. She doesn't want a gift, she needs a loan ... and she will work to pay it off. But Happyji  is aghast ... How can she, the bahu of such a big house, work for him ... and besides, he doesn't have the money either ...  No help here either.
And ASR, who would bribe, threaten and coerce people into following his orders, has apparently sussed out his wife and her helpers very well. The only two people she would approach ... one, Shuklaji, was told not to interfere between husband and wife, and gently given a reminder that his job depended on Arnav ... The other Happyji, Arnav knew would not bow to threats, because he was a sincere well-wisher of Khushi ... so he was asked to not help her, so that Arnav could make up with Khushi ... for her own happiness.

So Khushi is defeated for the moment, and has no choice but to return to Arnav ... who should be concentrating on work, but actually is only waiting for her ... 3 ...2...1... here she comes.
How well this husband wife know each other ... when Khushi ran off to GH, she did the exact same count, and Arnav appeared ... inn dono ke khayalat kitne milte julte hain! :))
'Hi.' No name, no formal greeting ... she was expected :)
Khushi finds herself in the same spot as Arnav was a few days back ... trying to eat humble pie and get her words out ... 'Ha ... ha ...' 'Happy Singh is all right ...'
Another try ... 'kir ... kir ...' 'No kirana store nearby ...'

And she's mad now ... 'you're enjoying this aren't you?!'
Yes, he is ... but not for the reason she thinks. Not because he likes seeing her upset or desperate ... he doesn't ... he never wanted it ... that was why he was doing his duty, and paying the rent without even being asked ... but she didn't let him ... and that was her ego speaking, not his. Her ego ... her need to show that she doesn't depend on anyone ... that she can do everything alone ...
And if this was not all about her ego ... then she's welcome to ask him for help ... help that he's perfectly willing to give ... not as a favour, but because it's her right ... she is his wife ... she doesn't even have to tell anyone, it stays only between them, between husband and wife alone ...
How many times has Arnav said in the last few days, variations of the same words? You're my wife, I'm your husband, you have the right ...

But Khushi is not convinced yet ... the six month contract still hangs heavy between them ... she will not take it as her right, because she's not convinced it is her right.
Fortunately Arnav is on the right track now ... his goal is to get that contract and six month clause out of the way, and the first step is to show her that she has the right.
So when she offers to work for him, he accepts ... but we don't need to stretch it for a month, a day is enough. 24 hours ... do whatever I say ... Rs 1000 per hour ...
'Whatever you say ... are you mad?'
'Knowing you, I'm still making this offer, so obviously I am mad. But there it is. Deal?'
And she has to agree ... and shake on it.

And he wonders aloud, rather suggestively, what he can make her do ... and steps up close to her ... she refuses to retreat ... she holds her ground, even though she has to clutch onto a chair to steady herself.
Remembering his words? Khushi, it's high time you stopped retreating every time I come forward ... you have to walk ahead with me ...
'What can you do for me?' even more suggestive, leaning in close ... Khushi more and more nervous ... till he says ... 'your time starts now.'
She'll work in office, typing, fetching, carrying ... anything ...
But he doesn't want their bargain in office, in front of everyone ... this is private, between them alone ...and he knows she won't go home to RM ...
'Then where?'
The best place, where she is comfortable ... where he is totally at ease ... and they can actually grab some time alone ... ;)

 Garima-Buaji ... more hints that Shashi babu is improving ... and warm welcome for Arnav as favourite damaad ... though Garima teases him she knows what 'work' brings him here so often ;) and Arnav is quite pleased at the allegation ... :) to Khushi's annoyance ... :))
'Does he have to keep coming home? And is telling you everything a part of the deal?'
"Nope. I'll put it in the next deal.' Not an issue.
'There will be no next deal between you and me!'
No need to even bother with a response to that one. As long as they're together, there will be deals ... it's the way they're made. And they're going to be together for a long, long time.
'I'm going in. Bring my tea. Don't forget ... no sugar.'

Break ... Anjali wants to share her sonogram cd with her brother ... but he's missing. And opportunely, he calls, worrying about her, concerned for her ... is she all right?
Yes, she's fine ... going to make kheer ...she'll keep some for him too ... 'are you in office?'
No, at Buaji's ...
Slight face freeze at that one ... 'oh, okay.'
So he explains further ... he wanted to check that everything was okay ... and can he stay back tonight?
'Yes, it's okay ... of course ...'
And she tells herself out loud ... 'Buaji is not well, she might need something ... it's better he stay there, I won't call him ...' Yes, she understands, she gives him permission to stay there, after all, he's staying out of duty ...
No mention of Khushi, his wife, who is also there ... even though he told her barely a day or so back that he loves his wife madly ...
And the cd reminds her that she is alone ... without either of her two biggest supports.
Try as I might, I cannot feel very sorry for Anjali ... a baby bump might just help ... but she's in her
home, with a loving supportive family ... it's time she stopped thinking about herself and started thinking a little more about her child ...

Back to ArHi ... Arnav lays down the rules ... 'service with a smile, and no anger' ... guaranteed to be the fastest way to rile her up ... he wants the fiery Khushi back ... and you can call me ...
'Laad Governer?' Yep, it's working, she's already getting mad, and starting to take swipes at him ... with the ordered bright smile in place ...
'Actually, Arnav is fine ...'
More annoyance and muttering under her breath ... 'what all I would like to call you ...'
And the games start ... first order ... 'biwi nahin banna hai to TV bano ... entertain me ...'
Stock markets ... music ... news ... and he watches with a smile as his fiery Khushi gets a chance to take out all her bhadaas on him ... his AR Designs has plunged because he's a bewakoof, spending all his time troubling her ...
Would the old ASR ever have laughed to hear this? The new improved Arnav does ... delighted to see his girl back in action ...
Music ... followed up with a version of Mausam hai suhana, complete with his tanashahi ... Arnav is happy, this is his Khushi, fighting fit ...
News ... a wife killed her diabetic husband with sugared tea ... fed up with his atrocities ...
Dance ... but she's reached her limit ...
And he stops immediately ... that's not what he wanted at all ... he wants her fighting, not defeated ... he didn't want to hurt her at all this time ... the show is called off immediately as he forces her to sit ... takes care of her ...

And the mood changes from flirting, teasing, fighting ... to something different ... mellow, soft, tender ...
'Khushi, I'm sorry I hurt you ...'
And she looks at him startled ... what is he saying sorry for? For the hurt ankle? Or for everything else too?
And their eyes speak, reach out ... as he rubs the balm into her ankle gently, tenderly ... and the mood changes again ... a reminder of a night never forgotten, a night that woke emotions, passions ... a night of love and hate and pain ...
'Do you always wear this?'
'Always ...' her voice softer, husky, filled with emotions she's been trying to forget ... 'It belonged to my mother.'
'I remember.' His voice soft too ... gentle ... 'You said that once.'
She never told him ... she told Anjali and Lavanya ... but he heard ... and he remembers everything about her ... small or big ...
'They're beautiful ...'
Did he mean her feet or the payal? Or both? Or the thought ... that she wore them all the time for her dead mother?
A man whose first compliment was ... 'this color doesn't look that bad on you ...' he has come a long way ...
And Khushi is overcome with emotion ... the feelings behind his words, and the memories both ... she was supposed to keep her distance, but she's in danger of losing her heart all over again ... she tries to run away with an excuse, but he's not letting her ...
'Relax. What is it you have to do? I'll do it for you ...'
'I have to get the clothes ...'
'I'll get them for you ... you can't walk ...'
But she needs to get away from him ... so she tries ... 'I can ...'
And he's not having any of it ... he just sweeps her off her feet into his arms ... :) and she goes like a homing pigeon ...

Although she tries to protest as he carries her into the living room ... with disastrous results ... trip and fall ... no catch ... and they end up locked together ... with him on his back under her ...

Precap ... is Arnav maroing major chance pe dance? His back looks in perfectly good shape, the way he flipped Khushi over :) :"> Shall worry about the medical aspects later ... oh heck, why worry at all? Much better things to worry about ... like will they be interrupted this time? Or will one of them back off?

Thoughts:
ArHi -
Stepping back from the initial euphoria, one thing that I have to commend the cv's for is for keeping the basic traits of Arnav and Khushi intact in this episode. Arnav is not yet the perfect husband, but he's trying his hardest to make up for a lot of mistakes he's made in the past, and probably starting very slowly to realise the extent of hurt he's given Khushi.
And for the first time, something that I pointed out on R&R ages ago, comes up ... Khushi has as much pride and ego as Arnav does ...

Arnav has pinpointed one of the two reasons for Khushi leaving ... her worry about the contract. I get the feeling that he also knows about the second reason ... or has a good idea. But first things first ... reassure Khushi that the contract is null and void ... she is his wife, and he wants her to stay his wife for this janam ... with first call on the next six as well.
Why doesn't he just tell her?
Would she believe him? Would she trust that he wouldn't bring it up the very next time he got angry or lost his temper? The next time his Di got worried or upset because of her? This isn't the first time this has happened ... they got close, she started dreaming, believing in dreams ... and then had them shattered brutally. And the last time was particularly brutal ... after risking her life, after finally daring to believe that he was with her ... then a few angry words and it all shattered again ...
So he has to do both ... tell her that the contract has no meaning ... and show her that too, show her that even if he does get angry, she is his wife ... she has the right to question him, get angry with him, shout back ... she has to believe in herself, in her place in his life, her importance ...

The problem with Di will take time to get sorted out ... and he knows that ... but it can't be solved by her running away every time Di throws a fit or a tantrum ... so first things first ... she has to accept her place as his wife and stay by his side.

I wasn't very happy with the whole Biwi Bani TV thing ... but could see both POV's ... Arnav's and Khushi's. Arnav was trying to spend time with Khushi, and to get back his fighter girl. The old Khushi was getting lost somewhere, battered again and again with the accusations, the complaints, the guilt, her own fears and insecurities ... she was losing the essence of Khushi - her smile, her never-say-die spirit. And by provoking her, he was trying to bring her back ... as long as she was fighting him, he was happy and kept it going, but the moment things got slightly out of hand, the moment she started feeling humiliated, upset, tearful, he stopped it ... and showed her the care, the love, the concern under the teasing ... he didn't want to hurt her, and he apologised immediately when he did. A man who found it so hard to say sorry, now finds the word slipping so easily off his tongue ... 

Arnav-Anjali ... when Arnav had that first talk with Anjali, he gave her an edited version of the truth, enough to keep her happy and restore her confidence in her position in his world, as the center of it. He did say that he was in love with Khushi, that his world would cease to exist without Khushi, but Anjali didn't pay so much attention to that part. For her it was more important that he had married Khushi for her sake, and that even with Khushi around, Anjali's position remained unchanged, their bond remained unchanged.
Did Arnav really believe that? Or was it said because he knew Anjali's deep-rooted sense of insecurity? Because the next day, when he tried to reassure Khushi, he skated over the conversation he had with Anjali.
And today, he kept up the facade of Khushi's lie ... why? To reassure Anjali that he was in GH only for Buaji? Did he also notice that withdrawal on Anjali's part when Khushi reached out to her the day Khushi left RM? Was the call to Anjali partly the call of a concerned, loving brother, and partly the call of a brother who knew his sister's insecurities and wanted to allay them? Asking her permission to stay at GH, rather than simply telling her where he was ... letting her think Buaji was the reason, not giving her the real reason, that he was wooing his wife.
When he had to miss the pooja for work, Anjali was perfectly understanding ... work could take precedence over attending a pooja with her, because she knows for him, work can never be more important than Anjali.
When he gives Buaji's health as the reason for staying at GH, Anjali is equally satisfied ... he doesn't care for Buaji more than he cares for Anjali, Buaji can never be more important for him than Anjali ... again, permission granted graciously.
I had wondered then too ... if he had said he wanted to stay with Khushi because he feels Khushi needs him, would Anjali have been so complaisant? And it seems Arnav does know Anjali very well ... so he makes Buaji the excuse ... rather than tell her the truth, and ask her to keep it from the rest of the RMvaasis.

Arnav-Khushi, a couple - When Arnav Khushi got married, Khushi kept Arnav's secret from both her family and his  ... never telling them the truth ... it stayed between them alone.
When Arnav found out Khushi lied to come to GH, the truth stays between him and her ... neither does he let it out to her family, nor to his. What is between them, stays between them. Because they are now a unit, a couple ... husband-wife.

Anjali's POV ... alone, pregnant (again, I would feel so much more sympathy for Anjali if she actually looked pregnant!) ... she gets the sonography cd of her baby, and wants to share it with someone. Husband is not there (as far as we know - did she meet him at the hospital? Is that why she went alone? Or is it too soon?) So the first person she thinks of is her brother ... but he's not there. Even before she can miss him, he calls, tells her where he is, asks her permission to stay ... Anjali is happy. He doesn't mention Khushi at all, neither does she ... even though she knows Khushi is at her maika. Anjali again doing what she does best ... playing ostrich ... burying her head in the sand ... if she doesn't see the problem, it doesn't exist, and she doesn't have to deal with it.

155 comments:

  1. quick update girls ... don't know abt K , me off on a date with my ASR...

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    1. ha ha..I like that Aarthi..I am so desperately waiting for the IPK updates.

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    2. WT* just happened?! :O and WT* was the precap?! SHIT..aaru, I am in the line after you..

      I am yet to recover completely...still hyperventialting from the precap.. :P

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    3. Mads..i thot u will say...Aaru hey not so fast.....

      I am not going to judge any epi based on precap was a promise i made to myself...but how do i stick to that promise?

      My best line in th epi"Tum kehti ho mujh mein ego aur tum main?"

      Shwethu, tera ASR top form main hain yaar,bas tu jaldi aa....

      Anji's expression swings are diffi to decipher....maybe its is stage with people who go thru emo trauma..i want to reserve comment...

      I am glad, they tried having what seemed like the start of a convo...still a long way tho...but it is a start

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    4. Rekha, with Anji, today i felt that she is trying to be positive....abhi Bua isnt well so she is ok...the day she findsout that Bua was ok all thruout...she is gonna re-visit the chotte aap badal gaye hai...

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    5. I did not mean for what is to follow....i meant about how she saw the CD and again broke down....

      As far as future scene goes, MU is already pakka written into scene..she may buaji about her health...and bua will say there is no problem..and Anji has every reason to MU Khushi for telling lies and Arnav for adding to it....

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    6. yeah...she was looking forward to share the sonography video with chotte....but he wanted to stay over at GH....i think she felt sad that he wasnt eager enuf to see it.....

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    7. I just want to add that khushi's clumsiness is contagious and is now getting onto ASR... :)))

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    8. btw...when bitwa says "they're beautiful" does he mean the payal or her legs with the payal?! *MIG alert* :P I'm high on MIG after today's epi...

      bitwa toh is full on chance pe dance maroing.. :P

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    9. @rekha...yaar today even I can't stop myself from hoping... see, the worst that can happen is anji MUing arnav abt buaji's health.. and that is the least of my worries right now.. :P as it is, anji with her flat tummy does not convince me of her pregnancy, so the fact that her chotey didn't have time to watch her sonography tape didn't make me sympathize with her one bit.. :P

      soo..bring it on, ASR... I'm waiting!!! :)))

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    10. Geetu,
      nahin..i dont think it was that..it was more about her state...actually her expressions swung immly...from that of perfectly fine to suddenly not so fine...but as i said, she is a precarious emo state so that is understandable....i don't think she will attribute any motives...it will be the circumstance that will cause it later....somehow i am kinda seeing it Su's way with a little twist....i actually meant to reserve comment on issue par likh diya....control nahin hota.....

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    11. Madsie,

      He meant the payal are beautiful on her ankles...dono ki bathein ho gayi....payal bhi aur phai bhi

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    12. Rekha : yeah this state of her is understandable and watchable....in-fact i liked this mood swing, gives a depth to the character....she will not attribute anything now.....

      control toh mujhe bhi bahi hota, so many times you guys are having such lovely discussion n i dont want to interfere, but phir raha nahi jata...and i give my 2 cents :)

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    13. Heylo, people ... why are you discussing Anjali after such a droolicious precap? Aur kuch nahin mila kya?

      Anjali ... I have written a long analysis on the main post. Same for Arhi ... which was much more fun writing :)))

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  2. Biwi nahi banna chahti TV bano.

    All the time that bitwa had carried biwi without mistakewa din't do any good aur e lo!!!

    *gloatwa ve* shiddat granted, 4 months delayed but still.

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    1. koi batayega..what all happened today..Mads and Aarthi are raising the bars.

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    2. pallavi,

      bitwa massaged biwis ankle and fell badly on his back while carrying biwi out.

      Now its biwis turn to massage patis back &she does exactly that.

      Kuch kuch huwa.

      PS. That was end of the episode :D

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    3. tell her bt the full precap Sama....

      Diwali fb ticked off the list....

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    4. Sam, tu update de rahi hain ya Pallavi ko tease kar rahi hain...
      But Pallavi thats what happened but lots happened before too..

      Short update:
      Khushi approaches a few people for loan but can't obtain it
      she goes back to Arnav, Arnav strikes a deal tells her to work for a day and he will pay the amount
      Arnav decides to stay at GH for the night...tho he informs Di and asks her if she is ok, she says its fine and that she feels Buaji would need it
      Arnav wants her to do a few things for him..service with a smile and she can't say no
      and then Khushi goes about it in the only way she knows....enjoy....

      lighthearted but just about getting intense....

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    5. :D :D :D

      cvs hamein tease kar rahe hain aur hum....!!

      360 ka zamana hai!

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    6. "tum kehti ho ki mujhme bahot ego hai na..kabhi apne baare mein socha hain?"

      damn that was SUCH a dejavu moment for me.. :P I swear me and my fiance have this dialogue with each other (rather he says it to me) almost every alternate day! :P

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    7. Thanks Rekha and Sama..

      I cant resist .. will try and watch the episode even on mute.

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  3. When I saw Arnav clumsily trip, I was reminded by a proverb in Tamil "Yaanaikkum Adi Sarukkum" which means 'Even the elephant can trip'. I guess I can make peace with his gloating smile of yesterday after that scene. Anyway simply loved today's episode and also appreciate the guy's genuine effort to make up with his wife(with serious intention to make out as well). Loved the teasing. Now these two look and behave like a typical marriage couple. Bitya is waging a losing battle with her hubby who is out to tease, charm, coax, cajole, lovingly threaten his way into her life. In his effort to sweep her off her feet he may trip but will make sure she does not get hurt. Can we take it that when Anj comes to know that Khushi lied and presumes she did it to creatre a distance between Arnav and Anj, he will stand up for her and protect her from getting hurt by any further accusations? Loved Arnav's own walking talking live T.V. Loved his genuine care when she hurt herself even better and am still to get back my heart beats in order after the smoking hot precap. Poor Khushi. She never bargained for this hotwa hubby who could charm his way into even a stone, a far cry from her Laad Governor.


    Opti

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    1. Opti.....I wanted to reach out to u yesterday becos i was a diff state after epi and after R&R comemnts
      I understood ur perspective as well...a modern romance with an old world twist will come with some adjustments..

      ego is the most diffi to surrender...and when one sees attempts at that, they will breach any wall.....

      your tamil proverb reminded me of film title "Samsaram adhu minsaram" loosely translated as Married life is like electricity...dono ko ab current lagne lagega LOL

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    2. opti

      after your anger on Bitwa, wasn't sure you would forgive him so soon, but am happy...

      @Rekhs

      thats one of my fav moives , I had raped the VCD when I was young, but with my BIL and Hubby we have almost brought a second DVD, I love Vishu there... and Laxmi Vishu combo is deadly.

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    3. Appah what movie and what acting....

      esp the climax.....rahguvaran was gud too.....hain na?

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    4. oh don't remind me of that, esply when he asks for forgiveness, laxmi isn't ready to join back stating that once the thread is broken it is always joint with a knot. if there is one more break she will never able to take it..
      will A asks forgiveness from K, and if he does I want K to say the same thing , one more heart break I wont be able to take.

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    5. I love that movie too. My favourite was Manorama with her 'gamunu kada'. All the stars did their piece well. that is the only film of Visu's I liked. After that all his movies were OTT.

      Opti

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    6. hey Guys, just did google search on that movie, there is remake in Hindi too...starring Rekha, Raj Babbar and Anupam Kher.....

      hope m not interrupting ur discussion

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    7. Geetu...kya yaar....koi interruption nahin, i have seen the Hindi one too....

      its called Sansaar, the same one u mentioned i think....its almost a scene to scene remake

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    8. Opti, am glad you liked Arnav today ... after your disappointment with him on Thursday :)))

      I liked the way he did it ... he didn't gloat over Khushi when she came back ... and face it, it would have been much more embarrassing for him if his wife had to take help from Shuklaji and Happyji with her husband such a big tycoon ... broadcasting their private problems to the world ...

      But the way he did it was much better ... he ticked her off, he was going to pay without even telling her, she stopped him ... and he was perfectly ready to pay again ... he didn't even want to broadcast it to the world ...

      Arnav Bitwa sudhar raha hai ... I can safely say he scored some major miles on his RTR the last couple of days :)))

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  4. Pallavi,

    here are the links:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oWFV_B3whRI&feature=channel&list=UL

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NzRVX2kUAlI&feature=channel&list=UL

    Opti

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    1. oh I totally forgot you posted links Opti. I posted few below too :)

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  5. Sandy DJ, BG and DM ne sunli ab jaldi jaldi ajao.

    "Tum kehti ho mujhme ego hai"

    "Ego nahi hai toh madad mango .... Haq hai tumhara ... Biwi ho tum meri"

    "yaad hai mujhe, its beautiful"

    "Tum jab chup hoti ho toh tumhari ankhein sab boldeti hai"

    Banda kitana bolne laga hai!!

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    1. sirf bolne hi nahi, Sama, apna banda toh bahot smile bhi karne laga hai... phone pe baat end karte waqt smile ke saath?! :D

      and another part that touched me was...when garima-buaji were fussing around with how he was going to stay when it was leaking etc..and then the ASR we knew would have immediately stopped them from fussing and tell them that its ok.. but the new changed version of ASR would let them fuss like that because somewhere he feels that its ok for them to fuss..its their right.. also, the way he said to khushi ki agar buaji aur aunty ka man kar raha hoga TV dekhna to woh nahi dekh paayenge.. :) loved those little touches.. :))

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    2. wese madsie still in india or back to germany ;)

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    3. still in India.. :P till october.. :P

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    4. Madsie
      tu mumbaila aahahes?? so when is the wedding?

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    5. awwww madsie chalo chodo!! >:D<

      Aaru date kesan raha ....kushal mangal :D

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    6. Sam

      Date of good because it was an impromtu one.. with no KMH after a long time , simple chaat at roadside are my CCKPs.. rains and mast pani puri and to add to it was bike ride...

      hum ne chote chote khushi ke pal churaliye aaj.. meri aur mere ASR ki Love story...

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    7. ab yeh kis ASR ke saath tum date par gayi thi?

      Hamara ya Tumhara apna ASR?

      chhoooooo sweeeeet!!

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    8. Rekhs

      I had date with my ASR who is no less then hamara ASR where EQ is in question.. so made most of it . was in fix .. hamara ASR ya mera ASR ? but then settled for mera and am back with humara ASR

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    9. @aaru..nahi, me punyala rahate.. :) and wedding not for another one yr atleast...mostly in next yr dec.. :) coz that's when both of us can come to India together.. :P plus we will have one yr of job experience by then...which was our prime condition before getting married.. :P :)

      @sama..yaar I am extremely dumb when it comes to such jokes.. :P so sorry if I made a mess of the joke by not understanding it.. :P

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    10. ofcourse madsie .... Jo tum kaho!! ROBL

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    11. Hum sab ke life main ASR toh hain hi...thoda kam ya zyada isliye toh yeh ASR itna pyara lage......er...mere piya ka ghar pyara lage.....

      EQ is short in most men.....but if all else ok, koi baat nahin....kam zyada chal jata hain....

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    12. Hayee, Aaru ... that sounds good ... paani puri and a drive are my idea of a perfect date too :)))

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  6. I felt the entire T.V. scene was a satire of the ongoing love-hate relationship between the fans on the one hand and the channel and PH/CVs on the other. Fans want instant responses and course changes so as to pander to their likes and dislikes (like Arnav) and the CVs grudgingly give it piece meal, making sure they add their spite to it. I think the hidden message to the fans is to act like the new Arnav and take it all with an indulgent smile rather than the old Arnav who would have blown his fuse by now.


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    1. bang on Opti, they always poke fun at the audience.....

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    2. Hey didn't think of it like that...but i guess the Cvs are really tired of the pulls-pushes of this medium that doesn't let them tell a story as they would like it...

      soemtimes i so wish the TRP was not a consideration...

      its my assumption that the channel does understand that success of programs can't always be calibrated by the TRP even if it is the measure of audience response...

      at the end, they would look at it in a broader sense of what they are able to leverage with this fan base...of understanding what products to market thru this.....their bigger issue would be adhering to their policies, love-scene quotient etc...SP v/s Sony/colors that kind of thing....

      But at some level, it must get very irritating for the PH and the team to be always inundated with demands of audience and that too one which is very vocal and rude abt it.....an even gets personal on fictional matters....that can be unsettling for them....

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    3. The reference to share market opening with the share prices falling seemed like a reference to the falling trps which the CVs are indirectly saying is because the fans have stopped doing their jobs as viewers and are instead being over critical of the CVs/PH. Fans demanded story when the show was going in circles (the demand for news by Arnav). After some hesitation the CVs gave us the bitter news of Anj turning half insane, acting really weird and indirectly driving a wedge between Arshi. Like Arnav, fans had to sputter out what they tried to ingest. The reference to the dance could be to the elusive rain dance scene which was rumoured to be shown and is yet to be telecast. The CVs are trying to say dance was not in their agenda but if the viewers insist, they may be forced to put up a shoddy act.


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    4. Opti,
      Well said! *applause*
      Like GH said in his tweet, these guys are creative and they are sensitive to criticism. Most of the times it is totally unwarranted too! After all, we all stick with IPK thru thick and thin because it is the best! And it is the best because they have the best creative team as well as the best actors.

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    5. True, Opti ... creative people are sensitive to criticism, and these people get a lot of feedback ... too much, because of the sheer popularity of the show and the demographics of the audience. it must get quite frustrating when they get brickbats all the time, and very few bouquets. Sometimes people criticise just for the sake of finding flaws, or because the story is not going according to their chosen path, or they don't get the scenes they want. We need to try and see what the cv's are trying to show, rather than jumping on them all the time.

      Having said that, I guess we are entitled to show our frustration when we don't like something ... as long as we keep it polite and civil! And use R&R and other such places to vent!!!

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  7. btw GH ka yahi phayda hai...koi interrupshion nahi hai....hehehe....living room me dono gire...m sure ohir bhi bua aur garima bahar nahi aayenge....

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  8. MIG thought. Khushi says she always wears her mother's anklet. Now that is going to be tough for poor Arnav. In their moments of intimacy, the jingles from the anklets will remind him of his mom-in-law! that can be quite a dampener.


    Loved Khushi's surprised expression when he told her that she had said it once and he remembered. Did she realise she hadn't told him but La and it appears he has overheard her? Has she linked it up with his returning the payal soon after that showing how much he respected and accepted her attachment to the anklet?

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    1. hahahahahhahaha

      you remind me of Ross from friends !!

      Kash cvs ko yaad ho aur yeh loop close kare :D

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    2. I watched Friends so many times but cannot recollect a smilar scene there. Which was it?

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    3. haha i remember...isnt it the time when rachel dresses up as princess leia from star wars and ross imagines his mother instead because of an earlier discussion with chandler.. :D :P
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  9. Anjali is 'Toffee se meeti' with her bro and 'chooran se khatti' with his wife.


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  10. Opti cannot give you exact season or episode .... Its something like Joey tells Ross that he imagines chandlers mom while doing it. Thats what gets into his head and he cannot proceed anymore with Rachel.

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    1. Yeah, I remember that episode. That show was hilarious. Never tire watching all the repeats of it.

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    2. its the first episode of season 3... :)
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    3. I just recently saw that episode..:-) Love that series and have all 10 seasons. In fact, had given Season 10 as a surprise to my hubby on his bday before it released on ytv in india..we were doing a hotel stay on his bday and had given the dvds to the manager ahead of time so when we entered there was this colourful display of friends dvds on the table.Spent the entire day in bed watching season 10 non-stop..start to finish..:-) only stepped out for lunch. It is still one of the most carefree,fun birthdays we have spent so far.AMAZING!! :-)

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    4. Sonu I did that in my fourth year &my kiddo cousins were new to the show... I had only training no theory classes. Hence back home it was re-run of all 10 seasons of F.R.I.E.N.D.S

      Beautiful days ... jam packed house full of fun.

      Thanks Misha ... It has to be that ... only time Ross and Rachel were "together" :D

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  11. Khushi said ki 'iske baad koi aur sauda nahi hoga aapke saath,' any symbolism gals....

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    1. yup ... They will be one ... Done deal !!! EverAfter :D

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  12. Holy!! It's weekend .... SATYANASH !!

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    1. Mona isse kam nahi chalega ... Chalo ajao aur poori poori *Gloatwa Ve* karo >:D<

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  14. I haven't watched the epi yet. Went for a movie and now we are back and hubby wants to hog the TV.
    Anyway, really happy that it was a good epi and all of you've forgiven ASR.
    Really eager to catch the epi now....What did he do to earn so much favour today?
    Uff... Why did weekends have to be there?
    I bet ONLY IPK nuts ask this question in the whole wide world!

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    1. Sandy,
      Thank you for the symbolisms yesterday.
      Can you tell me what that funny painting in RM living room is about?
      You mentioned Da Vinci Code. Even I remembered Dan Brown yesterday when I wrote that post.

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  15. When Arnav came to GH, the smile and the look shared between bua and Garima was so open and honest...just like how it happens in our homes...esp when newly married couple are around, all that leg pulling, etc etc...

    Arnav Bitwa is really missing Khushi's smile. And he said he wants service with smile, and she did that...though she did not want to. Guys...did u notice something, the TV channel all had things related to them...

    The Business News Channel had - AR Design's stocks falling price...
    Music channel - Khushi's song...AAj mausam nahi hai suhana...
    News Chanel - Wife who killled her diabetic husband...and ASR's reaction to it as it believing that she has given him sugar wali chai...
    dance channel - had Khushi's fav actor dance step, where she trips, hurts her ankle, and his concern immediately coming in for her...

    When Arnav was applying balm on her ankle, both of them looked at each other and both of them got reminded of the Diwali nite, when he puts back the payal on her leg. What was left unsaid on that nite, was said today...three words from him totally meant so much to her - "They are beautiful...". The look that was shared between them at that moment said it all. The best part was when he says - "I remember" This shows that how many things of Khushi has moved subconsciously into his mind, which he himself does not know. And now with changing equations between them,(he gng all out for her and she gng all out of his life), his realization of his love for her...Arnav is putting back those minute details of her into words and that too quite openly, and this is really pushing her to see the another side of the man, whose always had few words to say, deals to talk about and was always on guard abt his emotions...

    The fall...they had together reminded of their fall on rangoli before Diwali...I have always loved that scene and I felt good to see it happening again...ok accepted precap took us all together to on a different note...

    Man...yeh do din kaise jayega....

    weekend weekend go away...
    as soon as possible...
    little Iniya and R&R team are holding their breath...
    to know what happened in IPK land...
    Weekend weekend go away...

    ~ Iniya

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      I loved your post.
      That fall reminded me of the ladder scene actually. Thanx for reminding me about Rangoli.

      1. Rangoli
      2. Post hypo
      3. Ladder
      4. Friday
      (Barun has fallen in so many scenes now. I wonder how many takes they make him do, because all his falls look real. I hope they stop doing these trip and fall scenes, for fear of actors getting hurt for real.)

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  16. my heart stopped beating for a couple of secs when Arnav suddenly grabbed her in the precap.totally unexpected.he is basically gonna leave khushi completely flustered by the end of the 24 hrs..

    today K remembered his words and didn't move back when he walked towards her in the office.

    I think they should not have shown the tv scene in the coming up....then the suspense had have remained about what he would make her do and where.I would have gulped with k too when he smiled instead of knowing that they were going to th and she would become his tv.

    his countdown reminded me of the one anji did during the bangles poolside fight.

    so now that we have done the diwali Rangoli fall and Payal scene,can we have the lights scene too and I could gloatwa vey. Maybe Arnav trips and gets entangled in the stars on her bed and she helps remove them and. Fb and rabba vey. Pretty please with cherry on top?

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  17. Rambling

    Chotey Chotey Khushi ke Pal - so many of them today!

    The way he lifted her legs and placed them on the bed, I was reminded of
    "Aapke paon dekhe, bahut haseen hai. Inhe zameen par mat utariyega -- maile ho jayenge"

    From the movie Pakeezah.

    And today at the end of the epi the first thought that struck my mind was "Kandukondein Kandukondein" (I have seen it, a movie in Tamil; an adaptationof jane Austen's Sense and Sensibility)

    I thought of the following scene especially the part on the stairs(the video has English subtitles)
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8xRddccz-RA

    And the song from the same movie "Enna solla pogiraai" The video has subtitles in English
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FFXBHBtAmdk&feature=related

    Especially the middle paragraph:

    idhayam oru kaNNaadi unadhu bimbam vizhundhadhadi
    idhudhaan un sondham idhayam sonnadhadi
    kaNNaadi bimbam katta kayir onRum illaiyadi
    kaNNaadi oonjal bimbam aadudhadi
    nee onRu solladi peNNae illai ninRu kolladi kaNNae
    endhan vaazhkkaiyae undhan vizhiviLimbil
    ennaith thuraththaadhae uyir karaiyaeraadhae

    illai illai solla oru kaNam poadhum
    illai enRa sollaith thaanguvadhenRaal
    innum innum enakkoar jenmam vaendum
    enna sollap poagiRaay

    A week back they began with the Green and Yellow dress, then she wore pink and now she is in red. I am again reminded of Alaipayuthey and the Sakhiye song. Looking forward to the rainbow of love in Khushi's life

    And with all the running away Khushi has been doing recently and ASR asking her "If I pay you have an issue and if I don't then too you have an issue.." I thought of the movie Runaway Bride and this one scene where Gere asks Julia Roberts "Tell me how do you like your eggs" Her character in the movie had given different answers every time depending on who she was about to wed at that time. Her getting married had become a matter of joke and noone saw through her insecurities except this curt journalist who had come to do an article on her as the Runaway Bride but ended up falling for her. Finally she realized that the one man whom she could not stand, who questioned, her, taunted her, made her look into herself, to her wants, whom she thought she hated was the one man she could always be herself with, she did not hide herself from him, she could always go back home to him.

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    1. Thanks and you have mentioned some of the lovely songs from Tamil film world...aapne to humko college ke dino ki yaad dila diya...jab hum raat din een gaano ko sun kar apna din poora kar lete the...

      Sukriya ji!!! aap ki wajah se hamara weekend bana diya...download kar ke phir se sun lege and kho jayege apne beete huye dino mein...

      kaun bhool sakta hai "Pakeezah" ka woh famous dialog by Jaani to Meena kumari...and aap ne to bade hi aadab se Arnav and Khushi ke us pal us dialog se piro diya...hayee....
      ~Iniya

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    2. Beautiful songs from Tamil film world. Thank you for sharing the links, and I am gng to download the songs over the weekend and play it again and again!! Aap ne to humko apne college ke dino ki yaad dila di...when we all girls in the hostel mein jab dekho yehi saare songs play karte the and masti karte the...

      Aap ne bade hi aadab aur pyar se Khushi and Aarav ke us payal wale pal ko Pakeezah ke famous Jaani dialog ke saath piro diya....Hayee...

      Shayad CVs ko bhi andaza bhi nahi hoga ki aaj unhone humko bade hi pyare pal de diye hai...
      ~ Iniya

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    3. And she gave him her running shoes. Loved that movie.

      Thank you soo much for the memory. Big Huggs to you

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    4. Sweetie,

      Sister of my heart.....thank u for collage of movie moments....awwwwwwww

      Chalo dildar chalo chaand ke paar chalo...
      Hum hain taiyar chalo......

      "Looking forward to the rainbow of love in Khushi's life" am waiting to exhale.....


      Actually a special word for the IPK team for their labour of love....Opti,Su made very valid points above....loved it.....

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    5. Sandy bande ne per pakadh ke sorry bola. Aur ek bar jo pakda chod ne ka naam hi nahi liya :))))))

      Nice progression nai .... wrist to shoulder to neck to waist to feet :D

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    6. Huggs ladies..:)

      I am happy that you all had some good memories

      Lin,
      Yeah that last scene was very nice. And yeah she finally did give him her running shoes. You know in Khushi's case I have always felt that she would just give him one of her mother's payal. There would be no higher way of expression/confession of her love for him. It would be like saying, one half with me and one with you - but together a whole!

      Rekha,
      Collage of movies was one moment but the other was because they seemed the closest to what I saw in the story. Pakeezah for all the past story that seems to be gradually seeping in - where a father realizes he had a daughter years after the fact and where a woman so in love with her man, scars the one thing that he held the dearest inorder that he may forget her and go away from her. She chose this path to sapre him trauma but only reaped infinite happiness at the end - a father's blessing and a husband's love.

      Kandukondein well, the stairs scene was all about maturity, acceptance and realization of dreams. In ArHi case I think something similar would playout in reverse. And the song well, it so reflects the current state of affairs. She keeps saying No knowing the troubles ahead and he insisting on a Yes because she is the reflection that lights his heart, she is his heartbeat, she is the very life breath and without her there is no him. His peace and home are in her arms. His world is complete with her near him. But today he is wondering how he can bind her more to him so that the image in his heart is always alive and she never leaves him..

      Sama,
      Progression ki chodo - Man wants his wife mind, body, heart and soul. He is so totally working on the body aspect now ;)

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    7. Some thoughts:
      I set aside the dates for the festivals and looked only at the points I had jotted fof the food bill and again thought back to the that confrontation by the road when ArHi were returning from GH the last time.

      And my mind threw up the following thoughts:
      Khushi has always known she was attracted to him, she recently realized that her feelings had crystallized to love, to her he was always important, protecting him was always paramount and today she knows that he cares for her equally and would go to any lengths for her. SHe also considers them to be husband and wife since the day they were married and now more than ever.
      To her the one constant thought in her mind that has driven her since the day she came to know of Shyam's truth is that FB from the DM mandir where she saw Arnav telling Di how she meant the world to him. Today she knows she too is an important part of his world. She is not angry with him for bringing up teh contract either though a bit hurt. But that hurt goes away or will go away with all the sorry he has been saying and explaining that he did not mean it. And it is not Khushi's nature to hold a grudge.

      Ironical, initially it was Arnav who masked his feelings under anger to push her away and today Khushi is doing the same.

      She also realized that Anjali though seemingly normal has not accepted her after the fiasco. So in order that the brother and sister bond does not suffer on account of her, Khushi has left RM and walked away from Arnav - mostly for his sake - to save him the pain and agony of a fallout with his sister.

      Arnav for now is unaware of this. So he is solving the wrng problem which is not even the main issue here. He is still stuck on the contract and having her accept him as her husband and get her to exercise her right on him. But this never was the problem. The Khushi who exercised haq to give him medicines in the morning has steadily stopped doing it since then. She never will exercise the haq because it will lead him to a crossroad.

      What both of them have not realized is that had they not been in love with each other, he would not have chosen to marry her that night and that too at a temple. His only insult that night because he was hurt was the 6 month clause.

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    8. Some more rambls..anyways my scene thots rarely come true..

      I get a feeling that at Teej this year, he is going to want to break her fast and she will refuse him the right (to hurt him hard and push him away) and they will have a blast off just like they did the last time they were returning from GH. Not sure if at this point the Guptas finally realize that Shyamm has been unmasked at the Raizadas.

      Wouldn't put it past Arnav to go missing just like at mehendi so she goes insane with worry and again leads to a Khushi suicide like tense situation. Basically a bare all conversation between the two. What would be nice is if this happens at night and the result is a confession by boht that they cannot live without the other and an acceptance that they are indeed husband and wife.

      As for a family wedding, I think Nani may throw a googly or surprise just like Dilli ma Baali. She knows teh duress of this couple when they got married decides to have a havan both couples attend with their families and perhaps as it is their 6 month anniversary take the saat pheras around the fire and get the blessings of all elders.

      Last time Arnav was not too happy and this time Anjali throws a tantrum but Nani puts her in place. By this time Anjali would be in deep insecuirty and yo yoing beteen happiness that her bro found love and anger at it being Khushi (btw she never told Arnav that day that she knows Khushi loves him too post marriage).

      And Rakhsabandhan could well be a role reversal between ANjali and Arnav where Anjali under the influence of Shyam plus her heightened insecurities asks that Arnav who brought Khushi into the house should ask her to leave citing his promise that he would do anything for her happines. And Arnav is presented with the biggest dichotomy of his life. 2 people who are equally important - but one willing to sacrfice to not cause him pain and the other willing to demad sacrifice knowing it will be like stopping his breath. And he agress but chooses to walk out with his wife. Openly show his support for her and subconsciously make her the first priority in his life.

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    9. Ladies

      Just got enlightened by a buddy that apparently there is a second tej - the badi teej at the end of the month of shravan and that is on 4th Aug it seems

      so raakhi - 2nd aug
      badi teej - 4 aug
      janmashtami - 10 aug

      And then I realized that the shravan month is a month of fasting - usually no marriages at this time just like the tamil month Adi. Adi for Tamilians is a month when the tuesdays and especially Fridays are all about praying to the Divine Goddess for wellbeing of family and all. Nowadays it is also the month of sale and shopping :P

      But is is in the month after adi - aavani (Bhadrapad) that marriages are held. So then badi teej kinda fit in and maybe that is why the 22july teej the choti teej has not been shown yet in IPK land.

      So then it is raakhi and then teej. Now am wondering when they will fit in the shyam anjali anniversary cos last year it was between choti teej and raakhi.

      Plus caught a promo on Life OK that Shiv Parvathi wedding in Mahadev is from 3rd Aug to 12th Aug - same timeslot as IPK - so am sure the following 3 weeks are gonna be super fun in IPK land too.

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    10. Sandy, move to the shiddats post ... we are discussing there now :)))

      Ok, Shuklaji said Shravan ka month is going on now ... so no marriage?
      There are apparently 3 Teej festivals ... the one on 22nd July, kajjari Teej on 4/5th August and hartalika teej on 18th Sept. Janamshtami is on 10th Aug, RB on 2nd Aug. These can't be moved ... but I don't know how big each of these actually are.

      Shyali anniversary can be shifted a little for convenience, or even ignored, if RB becomes a big affair. Don't think they will focus on the anniversary when the marriage itself is in such a big mess.

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    11. More info - the first teej - Hariyali teej, is also known as Choti Teej, celebrates the reunion of Shiva Parvati.

      Kajjari Teej is the Badi Teej, it comes three days after RB, and five days before Janamashtami.

      Hartalika Teej comes the day before Ganesh Chaturthi and one month after the first Teej. During this teej also, Shiva and Parvati are worshipped.

      Go figure :)))

      So they can celebrate the Teej on any one of these dates? The first is over, how about the other two? After such a huge deal last year, they can't ignore it completely this year, can they?

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  18. Oh my asr made me do a tv just like khushi... had lost a bet with him.. nd i was like what a stupid punishment... but he was like the bet condition was if lost can make the other person do anything.. i remember telling him these things happen only in movies... it wss either accept the punishment or have the video of me clucking like a chicken to make my nephew laugh posted on face book... .. Been married for 5 years now.. these silly things keep us going strong as we just have each other...

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    1. aww that's just the cutest thing i've read today <3 hope things will be just as good for me when i get married ;)

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  19. I was reminded of the balm scene in Maine Pyaar Kiya..one of my first romantic movies..and I am still hooked to it. The way Sallu puts balm on the foot of Bhagyashree, the way he apologizes. I felt Cvs took major hints from it! And thats why I loved it..except that KKG was wearing a churidar not a skirt!! No wonder KKG is a huge fan of Salman Khan!
    I feel they should reduce the scenes they show before the commercial break "aage dekhiye" it just spoils the suspense
    I mean the TV sequence had they not shown before, I would have enjoyed it much much more.
    Overall I am loving the flirty ASR, I think Di is going to make a visit to Buaji and see her bro romancing wife. I just dont understand, what kind of a sister is CVs trying to portray, someone who is jealous of her brother's marital bliss? She is shown to be all so sweet with her bachelor or minus wife chottey.
    And seriously CVs you need to have some consistency with Dis character, eiethr you have made her so comlex or DBs acting is not able to bring the right expressions. Either ways, I am not able to comprehend how she is all sugar and spice in a flip second.

    Sukhi

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  20. For uninterrupted viewing -
    (Precap)
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cohxHcXNIZg

    (TV & Balm Ve)
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z4v4IFiGpV8

    In halla golla forgot to state ... ODB shaved and got a decent enough haircut ... ODG's wig is better tied.

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  21. Dia,

    In defense of RMwasis (I don't know why I am doing this) they were very much comfortable &delighted too with their KD romancing their bitiya in every possible way.

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    1. Waiting for your Sadda Haq Edit ... Sandy bhi gayab hai.

      Oh few points -
      "wese Arnav is fine" he wants that JI off the relation.

      Is this the first time someone has shown mirror to khushi when he talked about ego ... Is this what ASR is going to do .... "Jab tum chup hoti ho toh tumhari ankhein sab bol deti hai KKGSR"

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    2. Oh forgot to add ... Is it me or size of GH bed seems to reduce with every ArHi visit :P

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    3. Sama,
      I did realise that ... I guess it's a typical girl's family reaction - you're always happy to see your damaad showing his love for your daughter - after all, she's gone to his house, you want her to be the most important person in his life and to be loved ...

      While the guy's family is a little insecure ... how can this new girl take all our son's attention ... she's come into this family, she can't upset all the old equations.

      Girls' parents are geared to the fact that their daughter will not be theirs after marriage ... it's the mindset.

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    4. Also they wouldn't have mind ArHi romancing, more like would have been surprised at Arnav being in the mood if situation was apt for it. Like Nani said "its not your fault you are married and you need time together". She also was very excited and insisted Payal to go with Akash and was upset that she did not. Ok MM is completely a different case. I so wish they go back to MB days.

      MM se yaad aya ... What were they thinking with the other MM - Masala Mama? All other plots had explanation executed or not. This was totally without a reason. Din't even consume screen time. Thank God for that though.

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  22. I felt that there was a symbolism in the dance and trip scene. Arnav made Khushi dance to his tunes (by forcing her to get married to him). Khushi did as she was told but hurt herself. Arnav could not bear to see her hurt, so he applies balm and apologises for hurting her. That apology was not only for that sprain but all the hurt he inflicted on her post marriage. She gets up to walk on her own, mcuh like her decision to walk away from their relationship before it reaches its inevitable end. He doesn't let her do so and instead lifts her up in his arms indicating that he will bear the burden of the wounded Khushi. He slipped and fell but shielded her from the hurt. Things may soon heat up and Khushi's little white lies may catch up on them, making them slip but Arnav will shield Khushi this time and take the pain himself. This time around it may be Khushi who will ease his pain, much like her gentle massaging of his hurt back. Arnav couldn't be able to resist his charming wife anymore and take their relationship to the next level.


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  23. hey dia
    eagerly waiting for ur update..

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  25. Sama at your insistence :D

    ODG has magic gulaks everywhere and magic posters on the wall :D

    How smart is ODB - he knows where all ODG will go Shuklaji and Happiji (not payal - she is already too busy with her problems + her money will be Akash's money coming again from the same source - ODB!) - So with SHuklaji - ODB talks business - he can lose his job, with Happyji - he talks 'KKG's happiness'

    So many CCKKP - can almost rewrite the entire epi:
    - i am in no hurry, have lots of time - oh you dont!

    -yes i AM enjoying this - and how can i? - coz i was doing what i was supposed to 'My Farz' and you did not let me

    - ask me for help - not coz i want to gloat but coz you can, you are my wife, its your right! ...(wont even tell anyone - your secrets are safe with me - we are a team :D:D:D)

    - What can i make you do...???? (Total MIG alert :D:D:D) - Point to be noted - ODG did not step back!!

    - loved how Garima was quicker at getting to the reason behind ODB's 'kaam' then buaji! and loved the way ODG folded her hands like a kid sulking!

    - loved "shall i call you Lard Governor???" - no Arnaj is just fine aaawwww

    - loved ODB's genuine smile of amusement on ODB'd face when he appreciates his wife's wit - ASR losing shares coz owner is too busy bugging wife!

    - Best part - when she hurts herself - he is not angry - no 'Tum kuch theek say nahi kar sakti.." - it was just "relax" - the older more mature and calmer person taking charge!

    - ODG can handle the fights and the arguments but cant handle the soft caring ASR - cant bare to see the honesty in his eyes and not respond - so has to move - has to leave - but ODB has something to say to that...

    ODB was the complete man yesterday - the caring soninlaw - the flirty husband and a damned good brother - asking how his di'a visit to the doc was aawwww!

    oh yes Anji - so she is still swinging like a pendulum - happy and excited one moment looking at the CD and then sad the next.

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    1. PS two things i did not like -

      1 - BDs aagghhh!!!
      2 - the wrong RV - 'tanha dil' - i dont think so - the two were connecting so well - they were def not tanha!

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    2. Mona,

      I love all your pointers! Can't help but smile! Muah!!

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    3. Me too sad about the bds! Why? I thought no more bds.

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    4. Thanks Cheng - forgot to add my favorite lines:
      - after the ask for help dialogue - he says - and i will pay 'om your behalf' - not just pay but pay on your behalf - as if you are paying!

      - tumhay jantey hua bhi aasi offer de raha hoon, so obviously, dimagh to mera kharaab hai!!!! hehehe

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    5. I think BD's because Sanaya was off for a few days ... and Friday's episode was almost 19 minutes of ArHi!

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    6. Mona >:D< >:D<

      My CCKKP in addition to what you said, actually the one that made me love the epi was when he said sorry holding her feet :))))
      (though that's not what they showed but I will take it that way)

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    7. sama - that's a good way of looking at things- me liked it too - like i said , the cckkp moments were so many - almost repeating the entire episode :D

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    8. I know Mona .... Anjaliying is soooo good at times - see what you want to see :D :D :D

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    9. Mona, loved all your CCKKP's ... almost the entire episode :))

      I felt bad for Anjali ... I would feel more sorry if she had ... three guesses :))) ... a BABY BUMP!!!

      But why can't they show her sharing the CD with Nani and Mami, and dissolving into tears there ... that would be pretty understandable ... showing that rest of the family doesn't make up for a missing husband. Now, every time she misses Arnav, I feel she's just being possessive ... while actually her mood swings are quite understandable!

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  26. Dia,

    "Did he also notice that withdrawal on Anjali's part when Khushi reached out to her the day Khushi left RM?"

    He did, that's what made him upset.... his reaction was more like, it will take time. He was happy about the fact that khushi had a smile to be addressed by Di. Happy because he did something right, something that khushi really wants &also his Di is out of "leave me alone" state.

    I watched that scene again and again after you said he is blissfully unaware of Anjali retreating.

    "When he gives Buaji's health as the reason for staying at GH, Anjali is equally satisfied"

    But he did not, Anjali assumed it. He just said he is going to stay back at Buaji's. We are definitely in for another "tum badal gaye ho chote, tumhari shaadi hogayi hai" but if this leads to a proper blast from Anjali specially to her Chote, I will love it. It's about time. Ostrich is such an apt example for Anjali.

    &glad to know someone else was also annoyed about the TV thing. I din't put it down cause I ranted way too much on thursdays episode so wanted to keep anything bothering out of comments way. It was written well and SaRun played it apt but still din't like it.

    After the 3 2 1 countdown yesterday and his addressing the real culprit EGO with such surety ... I hope I really REALLY hope that cvs retain this same ASR whenever they plan to bring in his KP and also with outburst of his Di, again whenever they are planning to bring it in, I just hope it's soon.

    As for the interruption HE will back off. There is no interruption in GH and cvs cannot put C at bay otherwise :))))))

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    1. i agree Sama - he will back off - he wants her no know he loves her to bits - he will never force her till she is comfortable

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    2. Par Mona if she equate it with the fact that he made her wish/desire for something and backed off AGAIN, phir toh bitwa ki khair nahi !!

      It will be interesting if she demands answer NOW. He is all mood :D

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    3. But Sama - ODB is actually using his shatir demagh (which by the way only comes into being while dealing with hot wife ;))
      And with a rare quality (for ASR) called tact - so even if he moves away - he will be sure to let her know of his intentions and why he is backing off

      He is non mood to leave her guessing! thats for sure :D

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    4. He won't stay this way once he assured her place in his life. I am loving it till it lasts :D

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    5. Sama, you're right, he never said he was staying for Buaji's health, he just said he's staying back for the night. He left Anjali to make the assumption. And yes, he realised Anjali is retreating, so he knows it will take time ... that's why the next day he didn't say much to Khushi about what Di said ... he started, and then kept quiet.

      Am in two minds who will back off ... it could be either of them. Khushi is very determined not to weaken in front of him ... so equally possible that she backs off, and he lets her do so ... and also lets her know why. And that it's only a matter of time.
      I have a feeling bitwa will not mention re-marriage or contract till almost the last day ... so we should have some fun times ahead! He will spend the next 11 days in full on flirting and seductive mode ... leaving her in a tizzy every time :)

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    6. :D :D :D Dia, I don't think it's only bitiya he will be leaving in a tizzy................look forward to enjoying the next 11 days, ladki in!

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    7. Sama,
      "I hope I really REALLY hope that cvs retain this same ASR":

      The dumbest thing that ASR has done so far is letting Shyam go scot free. (Those two thapads are nothing compared to what he desreved.)
      And now is the time when he should actively find out WHO ACTUALLY KIDNAPPED HIM.
      Instead, he is wasting his time trying to manaofy Biwi. (Plus it does not help that he has to handle a hormonal pregnant sister!)
      Does he even give a thought that his kidnapper is out there and can still cause harm to him and his family.
      That TV prediction on AR shares, actually might come true.
      ASR is in for a big fall when Shyam turns up.
      IF that happens, I think I will refrain from making any comments on his shatir dimag then, because I know where he used it all up!

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    8. Su, just don't think about KIDNAPPED DRAMA anymore .... just think Shyaams VLRism came out in open ... what a KP,KJ &KD he has been.

      Then all fits if you also keep in mind that ASRs confrontation with biwi is yet to come. That's when the blaming game will end.

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  27. Check this out ladies...http://www.india-forums.com/forum_posts.asp?TID=3120470

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    1. Aaah Rag1ni .... Brilliant *applause*

      Love the title ... "Love in the time of debt"

      &Salmankhanomics "mujhpar ek ehsaan karna, mujhpar koi ehsaan mat karna" :)))))))

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  28. http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=112966052183445&set=a.112966048850112.26757.112919722188078&type=3&theater
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    It says -

    To Tom,

    A person who irritates you always is the one who loves you very much but fails to express it.

    Jerry
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    KKGSR se kitni milti julti hai nai! :D

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    1. Really cute!
      Who is irritating whom now?

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  29. R&R seems to be having a busy weekend.
    Caught the epi in bits.
    Wanted to mention something that caught my attention other than Arhi. (Arhi has been expressed so well by Dia and Mona.)
    Noticed Garima today.
    I always liked Garima better than Buaji. She cares much much more for Khushi.
    I noticed this from the wedding night. Garima was so upset that she slapped Khushi. She was right in doing that.) Buaji made unkind remarks which hurt more than the slap itself. (I've not forgiven her yet for that.) Garima also seemed rude to Khushi over the phone and also during pag phere. I didn't like it at all then.

    What changed my opinion of her was the Khushi- Garima convo.(This thought actually occurred later. When I watched the epi then, I'd only felt for how forgiving K was when she reassured Garima, "You are my mother. You'll not have to answer to anyone for me")

    Even Garima has to be applauded in that scene for sincerely caring about Khushi. This mother still had not got an explanation for her daughter's hasty decision, but she'd forgiven her. And went to the extent of worrying about her married life- a very understanding, forgiving mother.

    Why did I notice Garima on Friday?
    She was also tying up a ceramic jar.
    I had mentioned nani tying up the jars. Nani is the mirror image of Garima in RM for me. She is very wise and loving, like Garima. The only difference is that she holds the authority being the matriarch.
    Again, she also did not accept K for a long time after the wedding. She was not willing to forgive so easily. And when she forgave, it was because she trusted Khushi. It was not a 'chalta hai, we need to accept her for Arnav's sake', which was the reason for Anjali. And now nani knows the reason for that hasty wedding.

    I love it that these two are the ones tying up jars. I am not sure what the real significance is, but I hope this means that they will silently support Arhi through all their travails.

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    1. Su, even i noticed that.....
      On whether Garima was always intended to be like that....i have a slight version. If u see the Garima of old, she is a totally diff person, she was played by another person and at that stage, there were reports on websites that seemed to indicate that Garima is extremely touchy about honour having faced a difficult situation in her life....In fact,she was shown upset with Khushi on the payal first marriage incident...becos of the shame it brought to her family....
      given how things are shaping up now, Garima's charaterisation appears to have undergone some tweaking and my comments are not based on that one incident alone...its a general observation

      Also,at that stage the past linkage of Khushi and Arnav was more sinister than today, atleast in hints...now it appears more a case of circumstantial linkage....of course we may all be surprised by the CVs in the end. there are hints again that Khushi might have borne the brunt of a man's sins and become an orphan but otherwise the past connection is tenuous and more circumstantial...

      In case they show a deeper linked past for A_K, Garima will certainly play a bigger role....of that i am sure...

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  30. One thought on Anjali.
    Did anyone else feel this?
    Is Anjali going cuckoo?
    She seems to be talking to walls and curtains!?
    I mean, if Shyam is there, why can't they just show him, when they know we are all expecting him any way.

    I got an eerie feeling watching Anjali on thurs.
    She reminded me of Ginny Weasley with Tom Riddle's diary! (Sorry, Potter fans.)

    Of course, I am not seriously considering this.
    Just a random random thot.

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    1. SDu,

      If DB can pull a Ginny Weasley ... I will post an open love letter for her @IF.

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    2. Su,
      This might be a reaction to the negative feedback about Anjali interfering between Arnav Khushi and becoming grey. The cv's might have decided to change that and make her go cuckoo instead to gain sympathy. But let's see if they can pull that off, if that's what they're trying to do.

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    3. Su,

      I agree with Dia on this point...The difficulty is when a character is designed, if greyness was intended, it should have been introduced seamlessly at some point....there were some hints of something not being alright about her mental make-up but i think it missed by most becos perhaps DB brought a sacharine sweetness to Anji, that the oddness was not apparent or perhaps not very seriously intended by makers to introduce at that stage....
      So, when the *hit hit the roof, her actions did not make complete sense or should i say, it was baffling to many, some thot she was perfectly in sync with a woman who had lost her perfectly world, some said she had gone cuckoo, and some said evil....imagine eliciting such diff reactions....so perhaps the CVs have done a re-think on what they really intend to portray thru Anji...and as Dia, i am also interested in how they go about it..

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  31. R&R Deviyon .... Jo jahan par ho abhi ke abhi attendance de jao.

    ENOUGH !!!

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    1. Good ... I hope you have done your homework, DO NOT forget to submit it today itself. We will get back to today's classwork once AcharyaJi gets the worksheet ;)

      :D :D :D

      Madsiiiiie, howz Balm Ve coming along? They are beautiful .... Hai na !! >:D<

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    2. Teacherji, present!
      I have a question, anyone here can answer? In Khushi's dream, she saw the pearls, the mannat ki chaabi and the payal. We got a beautiful payal scene, I can equate the chanas scene with pearls, he got them for her, she scattered them this time and he helped her pick them up. Have we had a mannat ki chabi equivalent yet?

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    3. teacherji - am here, am here - bad internet connection today :D - HW submission made

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    4. Dia, itna diffi question?
      Kaise answer kare....

      The chaabi was one she gave him, he refused to accept..She returned it when they were parting and then he was almost on the verge of throwing it when he decided to keep it........almost seems like the echo of their love story....
      thoda sochi ka padi....time dijeye....

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    5. Sama,

      Present teacher!

      Dia,
      I think the moment when he said she was one of the most important women in his life was the maannat ki chhabi equivalent for Khushi.

      She sought out to seek him and she has with Fri's episode now found him in totality. Hows that?

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  32. Random points
    ODG can handle ASR, his anger, his fights, his ‘rakshashness’ and she can handle the soapy Arnav as well – its only the flirty ASR she can’t – oh, she respond to him all right but she can’t fight back – she gives in, so whenever the flirty, naughty ASR is around, he leads and she follows
    ODB on the other hand can handle the crazy, klutzy, spunky, angry KKG well –after all it was this spunky woman, nah, chit of a girl who challenged the great ASR about everything and it was this never say die attitude that he fell in love with – (the same attitude he has too, only his ways to fighting back were diff.) It’s the defeatist KKG that he can’t handle – it’s so unlike her that he can’t take it – he does everything to get her back

    ODB had said once at the wedding… MG & Sindoor – means so much to you…
    ODG never said what ‘dardnak hadsa’ happened to the husband who was fed tea by his ‘bechari wife’ – why? Coz even in jest she cannot let ODB get hurt – she can’t/won’t let anything harm him…
    Wondering if… When she starts falling for him all over again, she might turn around and say – I won’t come back coz I don’t like you, I don’t trust you (which is a very fair accusation actually!) and ODB will respond by asking her to then get rid of her symbols of ‘suhaag’ – ODG is def. not the superstitious nor the typical SP bahu who goes – “oh no, I left the window open by a fraction more than allowed and now the diya has flickered thrice, big abshagun – my husband is in danger coz of me…!!!!” – BUT ODG does believe in the importance of the symbols – I have a feeling these will play out at some part – she won’t part with them easily!

    I so want her to let it all out – even if she has forgiven him, even if she understands why he did what he did – I so so want her to tell him the whole story – the timelines – when she met TF, when, why she got engaged etc. And I so want him to tell her what all he went through – what he wanted to say that fateful night, what he went through – after all that’s what strong relationships are built on – communication and no secrets :D

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    1. Oh cutie....Mona...loved ur post...esp the 'ODG is def. not the superstitious nor the typical SP bahu who goes – “oh no, I left the window open by a fraction more than allowed and now the diya has flickered thrice, big abshagun – my husband is in danger coz of me…!!!!”' #
      how we love her for that change..so diff from all bahus...in general...

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  33. girls I am in a terrible mood right now...I just heard of some problems within my close relatives and although I have talked about it with mum, dad, I just wanted to let it out here too...to have an objective view of the entire thing, so that I will be able to think clearly..although me and my parents will not have the direct right to give any solutions, since its their personal family matter, I thought that I might atleast get an outlook..

    since all of us you girls here are older than me, I thought, nothing better than to share it with you, just to get another perspective.. as of now, the situation looks pretty hopeless to us..

    soo, just think of this as a story and see what you can get out of it...

    this is a story about a couple and their sister.. the sister is happily married and is settled abroad..she has a small daughter and is expecting again.. the woman (from the couple) longs for a child, but is unable to have one.. all the procedures they have tried to get a child are in vain..finally they have made up their mind to go for adoption and are looking forward to it.. meanwhile, the sister wants to abort her child, so the guy tells her that please don't do this, if you don't want your child then atleast give it to us, we have been trying for so long.. the sister doesn't give an answer till the sixth month and finally she agrees to give the child .. so the woman goes there and gets the baby girl here..until the very last day when the woman is about to board the flight she keeps on asking the sister to re-think about her decision..but the sister is adamant, she even tells her daughter that her baby sister is now aunt's baby.. so the woman happily gets HER daughter back to India.. but they still haven't completed the official adoption procedure.. meanwhile in India, now its been five years and the adopted daughter is very much settled into the family in India..technically its her own family, just that her aunt is her mom.. but not officially yet.. since her passport bears the name of her legal father and not the adopted one.. and now, after five years, the woman is blessed with another baby girl.. she is ecstatic because she hadn't expected it at all..it seems like a God's miracle to have been blessed with a baby after so long.. so all seems rosy..

    but now..the sister wants her daughter back..and technically she has every right is asking to get her back, since she is her legal mother and since the adoption procedure isn't complete yet..

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    1. contd..

      the mother (of the brother and sister) is in a dilemna.. after all, how can she side b/w her own children? either way, she hurts someone..

      the brother.. is in a fix.. he knows what's legal,and he knows of the emotional attachment and the involvement that his wife has bestowed upon that adopted child.. treating her as her very own.. he knows he can't let his wife down, but at the same time, he can't stray away from his sister..

      the woman.. gave birth to her new baby girl about three weeks ago and is in no mental state to take such big decisions.. she is still adjusting and learning how to manage her two daughters without making the elder one feel as though her mom is now getting shared..

      the sister..has to answer to her daughter when she tells her that her friends have been asking about that baby sister which was in her tummy all this while and has suddenly disappeared to India now.. she had been asking her brother and his wife to show her daughter via a video cam as she grew up so that she wouldn't miss out on it, but they didn't...because it was not feasible during that time..and/or because they thought it would be difficult for her to get over her loss then.. she has no plans to come back to India whatsoever, she is going to settle abroad and the worse that can happen out of this situation is that she will lose the ties of her brother and his wife (her parents would obviously not disown her), but atleast she will have all her children to herself till the very end..

      as of now, it looks as if the sister has the legal aspect completely by her side and nobody or nothing can stop her from taking back her own daughter..

      nothing, except emotions that is.. :(

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    2. Mads,

      The grandmother is indeed in a dlimenna and so are each of the adults. My only input here is legalities, technicalities aside, this is a 5 year old child they are all talking about. A living breathing child who has accepted a reality, a family for the past 5 years. A child who has emotions and can very well understand certain aspects but cannot comprehend other aspects. She still has her life ahead of her. And it is of her that every adult needs to think including the biological mother and the adopted father.

      What effect would the family transplant have on the child given that once she goes abroad, there are minimal chances of her ever seeing the couple who brought her up for the first 5 years from what you say? And given circumstances and adults being pigheaded, maybe technology though available would not be used to help her tide over the transition if any.

      If your parents can put in a word, appeal for that child is all I can say. Adults are grown ups and they would need to undestand and accomodate. Learn to live with the choices they made.

      My word to the sister who gave away her child would be - don't give into spcietal pressure. Remember this is your child and think carefully in whethr you do right by her in asking her back. The answer could be yes or no but be sure of it given she never wanted a secong child to begin with.

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    3. Mads,

      I think all here have already put in their thots...couldn't resist just adding my thots here...becos i have in my life seen a situation involving close friends(with none of these complications as in this case) involving a adopted and natural born child in a family. It is a mature family that fully understands the implications of such a decision

      I can share with how they dealt with it, in their case too, the woman could not conceive for a long time and once they took the decision, they went thru the entire process and adopted a girl and after the child was brought home, in few months, the woman conceived.They were very thrilled with the news and somehow they saw it as a case of the kid bringing her destiny of a sibling since they never had plans to adopt another kid...they were going to stop at one, not knowing how would they really be as parents....

      They accepted the new addition as destiny linked to the adopted child and they just felt they had been given a opportunity by almighty to become parents to two instead of one. they saw it as a sign that they were being entrusted with a responsibility with the trust reposed that they could be good parents to not but two children..now its about 10 years to that event...and i can tell, they are a happy family...

      Situations may be vastly diff but i only wanted to say that in such cases, a great deal of maturity is required becos a child's welfare is involved....it has a great bearing on what is to follow.
      One thing i would point out
      1)what causes the sister to ask for the child back, irrespective of decision to give up the child back,
      2)what caused the adoptive parents to leave an important legal aspect unattended at that point
      3)what is the mental state of the adoptive mother now becoming a mother?
      4)what is the emotional state of the elder sibling in the sister's family, how is she going to take the news of her sister coming back after all these sisters? has the sister considered these feelings


      At the end of it all, if the adoptive parents does not feel upto the new responsibility, all this comes to nought...AT THE CENTRE OF IT ALL IS THE CHILD AND NEITHER THE BIOLOGICAL NOR ADOPTIVE PARENTS CAN FORGET THAT.

      If the child's environment can be ensured of current (i suppose, it is a happy one) state even with a change, only then any change must be attempted..thats a big responsibility.....else wouldn't it be better to let present things continue

      I really wish the situation works out in the best interest of the child....God give them the strength to make the best decision in the child's interest and the ability to stick to their conviction with time..my mind is restless when i hear so i can well imagine what u r going thru..god bless

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  34. Mads,

    You just narrated what happens when you adopt amongst relatives and I've heard of a similar case too. Here the couple had a son of their own but the woman couldn't have another one although both of them wanted it. The woman adopted her sister's daughter after she willingly gave her away. The sister by the way had many kids of her own (I think six or nine, can't remember). Anyway, this baby came into this family when the boy was 10 years old and he was very attached to it. The two siblings bond very well and were extremely close. I don't know if they had completed the legal formalities but considering that the man was a lawyer, I think they may have done it, not sure. Anyway, to cut a long story short, the couple had gone to attend a wedding in their family with the two kids. The adopted girl was around 5 years old by now. Seeing her her biological mother suddenly had an awakening of feelings of motherliness and demanded that her daughter be returned to her. Despite the couple's attempts to reason with her, all was in vain. finally they had to surrender the child amidst her heart wrenching cries. Their son who was an adolescent by then went into a shell. The couple went through a nightmare. Finally after a year or so, when it became clear that their adopted daughter was not coming back to them, they went in for another adoption, this time from an orphanage. Their son took some time to bond with the new child but subsequently everything worked out well. I don't know what became of the adoptive daughter in her biological parents' house.


    From you story, what comes out clear is that the sister is a selfish woman who is only concerned about how to face her daughter and the society rather than what is in the best interest of the child she willingly gave up. In fact if it had not been for her brother, the baby would not have even come into this world. I feel the parents of this woman should be firm and make her see reason. A child cannot be just plucked and replanted in a totally new setting without going through emotional trauma. Yes, legally the child is still hers and she may gain custody of it too but then the parents should tell her that if she does that and breaks so many hearts in the process, she may have to lose them. I know it is harsh and it is tough for them to choose between the son and the daughter but sometimes the parents have to harden their hearts and do what is just rather than let their feelings take over them. They should also tell her that she may pay for this in some other way for whatever we do in this birth comes back to bite us in this birth itself. Hope this emotional battle is resolved as amicably as possible and better sense prevails over the sister.


    Opti

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    2. thanks Opti...your reply makes me feel a lot better.. :)

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    3. Opti, I have the exact same opinion like yours too..wrt the sister.. however, I just tried to look at everything rationally..inspite of that, I think I may have put a bias against the sister, although I tried very much not to.. I too feel that its not a joke ki naya toy aane tak purana toy rakha hai and now that naya toy mil gaya hai, puraana waala mujhe waapas karo types..you know, its not like, the sister was initially all eager to give the baby and then in the ninth month or so she was adamant not to give and then the baby was forced out of her hands.. infact quite the opposite - she didn't want to child earlier, but then she kept it on and willingly agreed to give it to her brother..

      plus, the adopted daughter is very much emotionally attached to everybody here..and she is extremely stubborn, so its going to be very difficult for her to adjust in the US..

      although from what happened in your case, it is quite possible even in this case that this woman has to give up her adopted daughter now if the sister doesn't give up on her erratic attitude..

      I feel if the sister wants her daughter to have a baby sister/brother again then she might as well take another chance.. its not too late..

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    4. mads,
      this is a really tough situation ... I think the parents, biological mother as well as the adoptive parents really need to sit down and discuss what is best for the child, rather than what the mother or parents want.

      I could only think about the child and how she would feel ... given away by the mother because she didn't want her, settled happily in her new family, and now if she is given back to the mother, how would she feel? That she was first given away by her own mother who didn't want her, and now her adoptive parents have their own child, so they don't want her any more? That's what the child would feel - especially if she hasn't even been in contact with her real mother all these years and doesn't know her at all. On top of that, the trauma of shifting to a new country, new family ...
      And how would her older sibling take the sudden appearance of a five year old sibling? If she has been an only child for five years, she would find it equally difficult to adjust to a new sibling, that too, not even a baby, but a five year old sister. That girl would have more questions to answer in school and among friends, not less ... I find it difficult to believe the mother's version that she has to give this older daughter answers now ... after five years?

      And this is not even talking about the disruption the adopted child would feel, shifting to a new country, new family, with an older sibling ... the child must have been looking forward to a new baby sister ... it will be so much trauma for her.

      But very tough to convince the biological mother ... especially if the adoption paperwork hasn't been done. Also she might feel that now that the adoptive parents have their own child, would they love her daughter as much as before. But the love between parents and child develops with bringing up the child, not just giving birth, and adoptive parents often love their adopted kids even more after they have their own babies ...

      Tough situation ... really hope things work out for the little girl!

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    5. dia..get your point totally.. I cannot help but agree, since I am more biased towards the woman and not the sister who is taking her daughter away after five years..

      another point here is..and it is the most important one, since I am not a direct part of that family, I would not know all the facts ... it is quite possible that the sister has many other reasons for taking back her daughter.. nonetheless, no matter how rationally I think about the situation..or how three-dimensionally I try to look at it, the only thing that I can see is that her decision to take away her daughter is going to keep no one but her happy..

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    6. Mads,
      A little late response.
      Probably I am thinking similar to Rekha here.
      What made the sister ask for the child she had planned to abort once?
      Is it fear that her biological child will be treated like a step daughter now? I mean, she asked for the child only after her brother had a biological child. Don't know what pressures she must be facing from her hubby and in-laws.

      No doubt here that things should be decided in the best interest of the child. The siblings need to sit down with their spouses and all 4 should talk and allay any doubts/ fears, keeping only the child's future in mind.

      Personally, I feel she should be allowed to stay with her adoptive parents. If they are going to take the child away, it is going to cause psychological trauma on two accounts:
      1. My mother didn't want me, thats why she gave me away in the first place.
      2. My adoptive parents also don't want me thats why they gave me back once they got their own daughter.

      This girl is going to grow up depressed and rebellious. I really hope all the adults seek some counselling without involving the child now and settle matters for good.

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    7. Dia has said the something similar too.

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  35. http://www.india-forums.com/video/television/215979-nok-jhok-between-arnav-and-khushi.htm?loggedin=1

    I don't know what to make of this! :S someone please help!!

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    1. Hey Madsie - dont worry - don't bank on these sbs like stuff, wait for the real thing- but one thing seems to be happening - OSB really has bought the place like we predicted

      Ps. this time i am not irritated with ODB - i feel he has the right to bug her just for the fact that she is wearing such a hideous suit - horrid design and bad colour combinations - Gargi warning!!!avoid this video as far as possible to stay away from the headache!!!!

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    2. yuck... wat a horrid suit!!

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    3. Okay, back to ban on spoilers and SBS etc ... no update please. We shall wait and watch :)))

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  36. Thank you girls for your views... I needed an putlet desperately or else I would have been crying all day..

    well, the decision has been made, the sister is beyond any reason or logic ... her only statement is this : "we ghave you our child because you didn't have any of yours, now that you have your own child we want our child back" such a pathetic statement can neither be replied to, nor be even acknowledged.. she is ready to take all the blames now upon herself for the goodness she believed she displayed 5 years ago when she gave up her own child (ignoring the fact that she didn't want it in the first place).. she is ready to break all relations and ties if it comes to that, but she wants her child back no matter what..she doesn't have in laws..her hubby's parents expired when he was very young, so she has no family to face.. no one to be answerable to except her parents.. and her parents have totally given up on her irrational behaviour and are now telling the woman to start preparing herself to give up the child..

    the child is to move to the US within the next 15-20 days..

    the woman is my cousin sister and I have literally doted on her as a child..I always admired how sefless and understanding she is and today she proved that beyond a doubt.. the only mistake she did in all of this was to delay in the legal formalities because it was too tedious since it was a cross border adoption and since her husband had to earn enough for the five of them (the two of them, their adopted kid and his parents) and couldn't leave the country for a long time due to work.. and because they believed that since its a family matter it doesn't really matter that much... looks like it does and at what cost..

    today I could think of just one story in my mind..two women are fighting over a baby claiming it as their own.. finally the judge gets fed up and asks the baby to be split into two pieces and each piece be given to each women.. hearing this, the biological mother of the baby screams out that no, instead of that, let the other woman keep it.. I don't mind..as long as you don't take its life..

    today, my sister proved that the relations of love and care are much more important at times than blood relations.. not only did she save the baby indirectly five years ago, but gave up on her today instead of treating her like a commodity and pulling her here and there.. as it is, she'd made up her mind to leave the decision on the young daughter when she grew up and knew the truth about her adoption.. if then the daughter wanted to go to US to her biological parents, she would have happily let her go..because it would have been her decision and she would have lived with it.. but five years ago it was the decision of her sister and even today its the decision of the sister.. she has had no say..she hasn't even been able to enjoy spending time with her two daughters after giving birth ...

    my sister will manage over a period of time...she has another daughter to look upto..and to raise..time will heal her wounds.. but what about my niece? when she comes to know that she was treated like a commodity? Because my sister's nanad is never going to admit that she didn't want the child..she will say that your mami took you the because she didn't have a baby and gave you back as soon as she has one... I shudder to even think of what might pass through her mind when she realises this..

    My only hope is God's miracle yet again that my niece is unable to settle in the US and insists stubbornly that she has to go back to her parents, the ones who raised her...

    Anyway, thank you again for letting me pour my heart out here...my mom just had an operation, a minor one, but since she also has diabetes, I wouldn't want her to stress herself much with this, so can't discuss it with her...and my dad doesn't show his emotions that much.. so thanks again, it means a lot to me.

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