Wednesday 25th June
It was bound to happen ... Rudra's instant reaction. From hating his mother, to hating his father ... one extreme to the other. She left ... Rudra hated her for that. Dilsher lied about why she left, allowed him to hate her ... Rudra hated Dilsher for that. Between the two and their troubles, no one seemed to remember the child who got battered and bashed in the middle. Did anybody ever love him at all?
Including Paro ... who seems to be only worried about his parents ... but what about him?! He doesn't want anything to do with his parents ... they both betrayed him ... he only wants Paro. His world begins and ends with her ... but it seems her world isn't the same.
Paro encourages him to ask ... ask his father ... why did he lie? Ask the questions which have been bothering him, eating away at him ... for so long? Ask ... get the answers ... put an end to this uncertainty, this fear of the unknown ... and move on. What hurt him the most was thinking that his loving mother found it so easy to leave him ... well, now he knows ... she didn't find it easy at all. It might not help that shattered child ... but it gives him some peace ... some solace now ... she didn't leave because she didn't love him ... she left despite loving him. She stayed for thirteen years in a private hell because she loved him.
Now he wants to know why his father lied about it ... why he spoiled his life with lies.
Poor Rudra ... he still has so much growing up to do! It's still all about him, his misfortune, his shattered childhood. A child's world is self-centred ... he believes that his parents' world should revolve around him and only him ... it comes as a shock sometimes to realise that they are also individuals in their own right ... that they were husband and wife before they became mother and father, and remain husband and wife, even after they become parents ... he ignores their feelings, if they don't involve him. Rudra is still at that stage emotionally. And today just brought that hurt child back in full force. They had their problems ... but what about him?! Shouldn't they have thought about him at all?! They brought him into the world ... wasn't it their duty to take care of him?
Poor Rudra is shattered all over again. Betrayed by not one, but both parents ... he feels all alone. Except for Paro, of course ... even in this darkness, he knows that she, at least, is with him. Maybe she can make sense out of all this mess.
And so she tries ... sits with him in the dark ... he finds solace in her as always ... one person he now counts on, trusts absolutely ...
She senses his broken state ... looks at the shared doll and laughs ... what if she didn't have the doll that day? What if she had a stone?
No ... she could never hurt him ... even in jest.
What if she had imli?
No ... the imli would have spoiled and rotted by now ... or worse, he would have eaten it, polished it off ... then how would he have remembered her?
Good thing she had that doll. It was fated that she had that doll ... that she would throw it to him ... that it would comfort him when he needed it ...
Some things are just meant to be.
He smiles too, as she meant him to ... at her silly nonsense .. finds comfort in it, in the solace of her smile.
What was that Paro said? There are two ways to face troubles ... either sit and cry over them ... or laugh at them so that they are forced to cry and flee.
And the next step for Paro now, is to reassure that hurt child that his parents' problems were independent of their love for him ... both co-existed in the same space, jostled for space ... and finally the first pushed the second out. Yes, it was unfair on him, very unfair ... sadly, life isn't always fair. But the love was there ... hidden, buried under their other troubles maybe ... but never buried too deep. And if he scratches the surface, pushes away the troubled thoughts, he will find the love.
A good many lessons today for people in troubled marriages ... what NOT to do with your children. If a marriage is in trouble, the first priority for husband and wife should be to ensure that their children are protected from the effects. It's not always easy ... but then, they are the adults, the parents ... it's their responsibility.
Precap ... what on earth???!!! Paro!!!! :(((
It was bound to happen ... Rudra's instant reaction. From hating his mother, to hating his father ... one extreme to the other. She left ... Rudra hated her for that. Dilsher lied about why she left, allowed him to hate her ... Rudra hated Dilsher for that. Between the two and their troubles, no one seemed to remember the child who got battered and bashed in the middle. Did anybody ever love him at all?
Including Paro ... who seems to be only worried about his parents ... but what about him?! He doesn't want anything to do with his parents ... they both betrayed him ... he only wants Paro. His world begins and ends with her ... but it seems her world isn't the same.
Paro encourages him to ask ... ask his father ... why did he lie? Ask the questions which have been bothering him, eating away at him ... for so long? Ask ... get the answers ... put an end to this uncertainty, this fear of the unknown ... and move on. What hurt him the most was thinking that his loving mother found it so easy to leave him ... well, now he knows ... she didn't find it easy at all. It might not help that shattered child ... but it gives him some peace ... some solace now ... she didn't leave because she didn't love him ... she left despite loving him. She stayed for thirteen years in a private hell because she loved him.
Now he wants to know why his father lied about it ... why he spoiled his life with lies.
Poor Rudra ... he still has so much growing up to do! It's still all about him, his misfortune, his shattered childhood. A child's world is self-centred ... he believes that his parents' world should revolve around him and only him ... it comes as a shock sometimes to realise that they are also individuals in their own right ... that they were husband and wife before they became mother and father, and remain husband and wife, even after they become parents ... he ignores their feelings, if they don't involve him. Rudra is still at that stage emotionally. And today just brought that hurt child back in full force. They had their problems ... but what about him?! Shouldn't they have thought about him at all?! They brought him into the world ... wasn't it their duty to take care of him?
Poor Rudra is shattered all over again. Betrayed by not one, but both parents ... he feels all alone. Except for Paro, of course ... even in this darkness, he knows that she, at least, is with him. Maybe she can make sense out of all this mess.
And so she tries ... sits with him in the dark ... he finds solace in her as always ... one person he now counts on, trusts absolutely ...
She senses his broken state ... looks at the shared doll and laughs ... what if she didn't have the doll that day? What if she had a stone?
No ... she could never hurt him ... even in jest.
What if she had imli?
No ... the imli would have spoiled and rotted by now ... or worse, he would have eaten it, polished it off ... then how would he have remembered her?
Good thing she had that doll. It was fated that she had that doll ... that she would throw it to him ... that it would comfort him when he needed it ...
Some things are just meant to be.
He smiles too, as she meant him to ... at her silly nonsense .. finds comfort in it, in the solace of her smile.
What was that Paro said? There are two ways to face troubles ... either sit and cry over them ... or laugh at them so that they are forced to cry and flee.
And the next step for Paro now, is to reassure that hurt child that his parents' problems were independent of their love for him ... both co-existed in the same space, jostled for space ... and finally the first pushed the second out. Yes, it was unfair on him, very unfair ... sadly, life isn't always fair. But the love was there ... hidden, buried under their other troubles maybe ... but never buried too deep. And if he scratches the surface, pushes away the troubled thoughts, he will find the love.
A good many lessons today for people in troubled marriages ... what NOT to do with your children. If a marriage is in trouble, the first priority for husband and wife should be to ensure that their children are protected from the effects. It's not always easy ... but then, they are the adults, the parents ... it's their responsibility.
Precap ... what on earth???!!! Paro!!!! :(((
Just watched the episode. Read your post in IF too. This track was trying my patience, when it had started. But it has turned out well. There are still a few unexplained mysteries. But the real focus as of now is the troubled marriage of Mala-Dilly and its consequences. I feel Rudra is being pushed from all corners to forget his past and accept his parents. I believe it is not so easy for anyone to let go of such things in a minute. Alright, he has been carrying this burden for 15 years. It is high time he stopped torturing himself. But he needs time and a little space, which he is not being given. Again, this might be the right approach for handling Rudra, as he tends to relapse. Anyways, it is a work of fiction. So, some amount of impracticality is fine.
ReplyDeleteAbout the precap.... Just WTH was that? Methinks it could be a handiwork of Laila. Because it is a little early for the new negative person to enter. Atleast I was expecting the guy to appear in a week to ten days time. I guess Laila has been completely forgotten in the whole drama of Mala-Rudra-Dilsher. Would be better, if Laila is gotten rid of forever. She is another stain in Rudra's past. A stain which refuses to leave. Or the precap could be someone's dream. God knows.... Am scared for Paro baisa. :( :( :(
first, mala did not want to leave dilsher, she was going to stick it out for the sake of her son.. then she decided enough was enough and tried to leave WITH her son.. and ws banished from the house. dilly and rudy left the house and hid away from the family for 15 years. mala when she was settled, contacted danveer to come collect her son..and was denied access because chotaD did not know where bigD was.
ReplyDeletenow. i am totally getting tired of paro preaching to rudy every second minute. yes, it is perfectly in her place to do so, yes, there is no other character in the story that rudy can confide in, or whom rudy trusts enough, but I, for one, feel that paro should be a bit overwhelmed by the typhoon rather than being his lighthouse all the time. the girl had a quiet strength, a stubborn streak a mile wide.. but at least let her be a girl once in a while!! 2 mins a fter she SOLVEd the 15 year festering boil, she is decorating a shelf for his childhood toys/stuff?? she cannot be a mother to him all the time, (it is as unrealistic as an imaginary story can be!)
i have had it with the unrelenting angst in the story. sanaya is too good, the whole feel of the episode fluctuates between her smile and her tears. the emotional rollercoaster is giving me whiplash. please, a little restraint, a little normalcy.. is that too much to ask in a daily serial director? forget i asked.
am starting to watch the next serial.. even though both the lead actors are OTT, the light fluffy nonsense story is SO MUCH RELIEF from the daily grind i have right now.
no words on the precap. it disturbed me so much i will probably not watch anymore this week.
OMG - Jaya - I so agree with you. So glad it's not just me. I can't take it anymore. I read the pre-cap in the updates and did not watch the episode yesterday (and don't plan to watch today either. I have my own day to day problems in my AD - I don't need this additional stress.
ReplyDeleteI entered a long reply to Jaya, and I don't know where it went, so writing again .. agree with both of you!
ReplyDeleteParo means well, but honestly, she's coming across as TOO pushy!! Give it time ... she can't right all Rudra's wrongs in a day! Give him time to settle down and absorb one set of shocks, before moving on ... just SLOW DOWN!!! That's where the CVs have always gone wrong with this show ... they rush everything! Take it easy, and put in some light moments, some light tracks in the middle ... they rush from one drama to the next, without any breathing space at all. And it's making Rudra look even more like a sulky child, especially the last scene, where all of them were trying to nanny him into remembering the good times ... like manaoing a spoiled child who's throwing a tantrum.
Also agree on the new show ... it's cliched, it's fluffy, it's OTT, the acting of the leads is mediocre (though better than Aailyah of BI) ... but it's a pleasant watch. There are light moments, fun moments throughout the episode, with a few minutes of drama. As opposed to RR, where there is unrelenting drama without a break!
The precap ... from the new SBS segment, nothing happens, it was probably a prank, so will watch it.
Thanks for the calming words Dia.
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