Thursday 19th June
Rudra mulls over the mangalsutra ... and mulls over it some more.
Mala finally breaks her silence ... to tell Dilsher that she has come back only for her son.
Unspoken ... not for him.
He seems to accept that. Does't like it, but accepts it.
Yet he has kept her mangalsutra all these years.
And Mala asks him to help her reach out to her son ... because a child should not hate the mother who gave birth to him. But she doesn't seem in any hurry to re-kindle their own relationship.
Sumer seems to be losing patience with Mohini ... and losing respect for her too.
Mala's kheer - and Mohini's added poison. Rudra gave it back to Mohini satisfactorily ... everyone else seems to be unable to counter her poisonous tongue ... maybe out of guilt, for Dilsher, Danveer and Mala ... and simple respect for elders, for the younger lot. Rudra alone isn't silent ... as he hasn't been taught to respect his elders, and hasn't had much reason to respect the ones in his life.
(I never understand how people can recognise who made a dish by its taste alone ... what are recipe books for?!)
Sumer banna was hilarious ... gobbling down his share of kheer, before his mom stepped in to take away his simple pleasures in life!
Paro is happy Rudra defended Mala ... he spoils her happiness by telling her he only did it to annoy KCM.
Paro seems to be reaching the end of her inexhaustible patience ... I am glad. Rudra seems to use her as a punching bag for his own frustrations, how long can a girl take it? And whether he acknowledges it or not, whether he likes it or not ... reaching out to his mother, is for him ... not for her.
Though I feel Paro could back off a bit ... she really didn't need to say anything after he defended his mother. She could leave him to think over what he did on his own ... the more she tells him that he cares for Mala, the more he will deny his own feelings. Rudra is a bit perverse that way. Getting him to acknowledge his feelings for Paro in itself took an age, when the hatred was only a few months old, and was baseless. Getting him to acknowledge his feelings for his mother will take him a few years. A few dozen years. Maybe a few hundred.
On second thoughts, I do understand why Paro is pushing this !
The benefit of Paro throwing a fit of the sulks, is that Rudy boy really can't take it ... he can't stand Paro backing away from him ... not for a moment. So he will belatedly put that mangalsutra on her after all. And we will get a good Parud scene to end the week.
Rudra mulls over the mangalsutra ... and mulls over it some more.
Rudy, it's just a necklace ... put in on her neck, and be done with it! 
Laila calls, he gives her another cut ... Laila is going to lose her patience soon ... and love, when it turns into hatred, can be dangerous. Especially in the hands of a fiery woman.
Mala finally breaks her silence ... to tell Dilsher that she has come back only for her son.
Unspoken ... not for him.
He seems to accept that. Does't like it, but accepts it.
Yet he has kept her mangalsutra all these years.
And Mala asks him to help her reach out to her son ... because a child should not hate the mother who gave birth to him. But she doesn't seem in any hurry to re-kindle their own relationship.
Mala wants to reach out to Rudra ... but the grown up man is someone she doesn't recognise any more. Has he really changed so much?
Sumer seems to be losing patience with Mohini ... and losing respect for her too.
Mala's kheer - and Mohini's added poison. Rudra gave it back to Mohini satisfactorily ... everyone else seems to be unable to counter her poisonous tongue ... maybe out of guilt, for Dilsher, Danveer and Mala ... and simple respect for elders, for the younger lot. Rudra alone isn't silent ... as he hasn't been taught to respect his elders, and hasn't had much reason to respect the ones in his life.
(I never understand how people can recognise who made a dish by its taste alone ... what are recipe books for?!)
Sumer banna was hilarious ... gobbling down his share of kheer, before his mom stepped in to take away his simple pleasures in life!
Paro is happy Rudra defended Mala ... he spoils her happiness by telling her he only did it to annoy KCM.
Paro seems to be reaching the end of her inexhaustible patience ... I am glad. Rudra seems to use her as a punching bag for his own frustrations, how long can a girl take it? And whether he acknowledges it or not, whether he likes it or not ... reaching out to his mother, is for him ... not for her.
Though I feel Paro could back off a bit ... she really didn't need to say anything after he defended his mother. She could leave him to think over what he did on his own ... the more she tells him that he cares for Mala, the more he will deny his own feelings. Rudra is a bit perverse that way. Getting him to acknowledge his feelings for Paro in itself took an age, when the hatred was only a few months old, and was baseless. Getting him to acknowledge his feelings for his mother will take him a few years. A few dozen years. Maybe a few hundred.
On second thoughts, I do understand why Paro is pushing this !
The benefit of Paro throwing a fit of the sulks, is that Rudy boy really can't take it ... he can't stand Paro backing away from him ... not for a moment. So he will belatedly put that mangalsutra on her after all. And we will get a good Parud scene to end the week.
And sone pe suhaga ... it seems like the BG music guy went on holiday and we will get Mangalam Bhagwan Vishnu ... not deem tana 
Here I was thinking where did Dilsher's sarcastic comments and witty one-liners go, looks like it transferred itself on to his son, Rudra opening the door first baffling everyone and the dialogue that followed,looks on everybody's face especially Mohini and Sumer hurrying up with the Kheer, LOL.
ReplyDeleteThat's a perfect tittle for today's episode Dia, there was sure a lot of emotions revolving around the Kheer!!
And Sumer, he is such a cartoon, His Mathili's imitation was the best :-0 ;-))
I liked today's episode. Dilsher finally confessed to Mala that Rudra's hatred towards her were intensified by his words. And finally they seem to be in the same page, their goal being helping Rudra and an attempt to rekindling the lost relationship & love.
Its a good thing that Paro gave Rudra a piece of her mind, I agree with you Dia there is only so much that a girl can take and he is not his punching wife she is his better half!
Its true that a husband only has his wife to share is worries, grief or difficulties so please explain it to us, don't yell at us, we can hear, not deaf you see!!
The best part it looks like its going to be all nice and romantic episode tomorrow, ;-)) are they going to end it so that all fans are on cloud number nine? Looks that way especially with Ashish's performance in JDJ on Saturday, how convenient... hmm.....
Are they trying to rekindle their own relationship? I think Mala is wary ... so it seems she had the bad experience, and walked out ... Dilsher is more guilty than anything else. Yes, he finally acknowledged his role in shaping Rudra's personality ... about time! But he does seem to realise his mistakes ... he said the mangalsutra was a memory of their marriage, and later of his mistakes ... the mistakes he made in his marriage.
DeleteI'm glad Paro is ticking off Rudra ... he really takes her for granted many times. Yells at her for everything ... and she puts up with it. She is patient ... I would have lost my cool ages back!
Hope so ... we need a good romantic episode after all the family drama ... and the drop in TRPs :(((
Oh I should have been clearer, I meant rekindle the relationship between mother & son, Ya I don't see anything happening between Dillu and Mala, their love story had unfortunate ending already , so that's done ! and I am keen to seeing their son & daughter-in laws Love story, with a hopeful happy ending. ;-)
DeleteBut I have to say this about Mala, she seems to be a genuinely nice person/ good at heart, even though she may have had a bad marriage and made a few mistakes she has realized them and is working her way to be forgiven/ correct her mistakes, she never blamed only her husband for their sour relationship, and even after Disher revealed that he is the reason for the way Rudra thinks and treats her her response was to help her now to set things right.
Good episode. The story seems to flow smoothly these days. But like Dia pointed out, the TRPs have gone down. By 0.6 points or so. Hmmm..... I hope this serial lasts atleast till the end of the year. I seriously don't understand what audience want from a serial. So, Paro is getting what she wants. About time. Rudra is just losing his cool so often with Paro. Probably, a quality of Dilsher? Atleast Paro gives back. Mala just doesn't seem the type. Probably, one of the reasons why their marriage didn't work. I am not married, but from personal experience I can very well tell that Indian husbands do take their wives for granted. Mala-Rudra-Dilsher's story reminds me of a mother, whose is just tagging along with her husband, just for the sake of her kids. An extremely sweet person by nature, very quick to forgive, a compulsive optimist, puts up with every single difficulty in life. Have often felt bad for that woman. The difference is that Mala made a decision to leave her husband, but this lady never did. When I was watching the Dilsher-Mala scene, I was reminded of a quote from a novel, "P.S., I love you". It says, "We don't realize what a privilege it is to grow old with someone who doesn't humiliate you beyond repair". I don't know Mala's exact reasons for running away. But she does seem to be good, kind woman, albeit a little meek. I hope Rudra realizes this about his mom and patches with her. And starts treating his wife with a little kindness. Paro literally spoils him. The guy never really reciprocates the kindness. :( :(
DeleteHmmmm.... Dia, I must really thank you for making me write these things. I don't even comment in facebook. At the most, a "Happy birthday" or "How are you" type comments only. Even today, after watching the episode, I didn't have a clue as to what I should write in this blog, because Dia et al cover every nook and corner of the episode. Ab dhekho... I have typed a full paragraph with faltu philosophy. What else can I say?? Just thank you, for letting me share my thoughts with you girls. :) :)
Been out the whole day ... just got back and reading your comments, girls.
DeleteI wonder whether Indian audiences cannot accept the concept of a woman walking out on a bad marriage? We are so used to the sight of the noble Bhartiya nari sticking to her bad marriage, her abusive husband, dominating in-laws ... all for the sake of "family" ... maybe Mala's story has not gone down well with the TRP aunties.
Madhu, I remembered from your story ... another lady I know, not very well educated, married to a man who had anger issues. She stuck it out with him till the kids were grown up, their daughter was married, and their son was in college ... then she walked out. This was many years ago ... her reasoning for sticking it out till then was that it would be difficult to find a good boy for her daughter, if the parents were divorced. There was a lot of mental abuse in the relationship, maybe physical also, I don't know ... and the husband was an educated guy, much more educated than his wife, and in a very good govt job ... which he had to take premature retirement from, because of his anger issues. So obviously his issues were not only marital, but were more general. That lady is a lovely person ... and she is much happier living on her own now. Her kids support her, her husband doesn't give her anything, but she manages on her own.
That quote was beautiful and very apt ... the ending of English Vinglish also conveyed the same message ... respect for one's partner and family members is so important. Judging from the way Rudra continuously snaps at Paro for every little thing, and he is very much his father's son, maybe Dilsher was the same and Mala felt that she could never measure up to what he wanted. And she was not as strong as Paro, could never talk back ... and Mohini played up the differences and made her feel even more inadequate.
Only I wonder whether such a track will be accepted on Indian TV ... like I said, the noble sacrificing Bhartiya nari is always portrayed as the ideal woman. And here Mala left her child ... most mothers will feel she should have put up with abuse for the sake of her child, or taken him with her, to make sure he was not subjected to the same kind of abuse. And we know Rudra was was subjected to constant humiliation and taunts by Dilsher, about having his mother's eyes, about reminding Dilsher of his runaway wife every single day. So by not taking him, Mala definitely made a mistake ... he would have been happier with her than with Dilsher, at least he would have felt loved, and she would not have embittered him against his father. Hence his grouse against Mala is justifed .. but currently, he risks spoiling his marriage and his current happiness, by making Paro his punching bag for all his frustrations. All she is doing is asking him to talk to Mala ... not embrace her and play happy families!
Madhu ... you must keep writing ... it is lovely to read all the thoughts here!!! And you're very right ... Mala does seem to be a good woman at heart, although weak ... she has firmly refused to lay any blame on Dilsher for whatever happened between them ... and only wants his help in reaching out to Rudra. Since it is partly Dilsher's fault that Rudra is th way he is, that is the least he can do, and it's good to see Dilsher repenting, and realising his mistakes.
Deletelovely take ladies on the Bharatiya Nari.....I remember one of Mala's lines that "Rudra was the only solace she found in the haveli" - I don't think she was weak, per se, but every thing has its limits and Mala had reached the end of her tether.
DeleteThe sad part about the Bharaitya Nari bit is that most eastern cultures expect women to be the sacrificial lamb, come what may. The term respect is usually given lip service only. Just take a look at what men are allowed to get away with, not only by men themselves, but women also who choose to find fault with women also. The interesting thing I find with today's generation of married girls is that they have begun to keep an arm's length away from all of their in-laws; as a defensive measure, I agree, but I also find it pitiable for the children who no longer enjoy the same measure of camaraderie with the extended family. I just hope that today's parents are able to instill the value of respect in all of their children.
Sorry typo, meant punching bag not punching wife!!
ReplyDeleteLoved, loved Sumer Banna's performance today - hope the actor goes far 'cos he has the potential. Now if only Lady Luck would smile upon him.
ReplyDeleteSeriously though Dia, you can't taste the difference? I am sure if you and another member of your family made kheer from the same original recipe, both of you would develop a distinctive kheer over time - it is natural. Tasters always know.
I'm not a great cook ... there is probably just one dish I make which my husband swears by ... the rest is no different from anyone else!
DeleteSumer banna was cute ... he is good as comic relief!