Tuesday 24th June
So the truth is finally out ... about time too!!! Dilsher married a beautiful, intelligent, sensitive woman ... he couldn't deal with his own failures and frustrations in life, and took it out on her. And when he had his accident, things worsened ... Mala took over the business, progressed it, and that hurt his male ego even more. Physically handicapped, now he was not even as smart as his wife ... she was better than him in that respect too. So of course, so much easier to attribute her success to her good looks, point fingers at her character ... because that was easier and more soothing to his male ego than to admit Mala was more capable than him. And when she left, that was the final blow ... he lied to his son, laid all the blame on Mala, and continued to let out his frustration and bitterness on his son for the next fifteen years.
And Mala found a soothing companion in Tejawat, someone who gave her respect and affection, who respected her wishes and her desires ... who seemed to have noble and poetic a soul as she did ... poor Mala, how badly she was mistaken on that last one! But compared to the rough, abusive Dilsher, the suave, smooth-talking loving Tejawat must have been like Prince Charming.
Still doesn't explain why Mala left Rudra for so many years ... agreed, Dilsher didn't let her take him with her ... but did she make any attempts to find him later? Guess that part will come out tomorrow.
The contrast between Paro and Mala was shown up ... Mala was weak, she put up with the abuse for fifteen years ... Paro is strong, she is stubborn, she answered Rudra back from day one ... and she doesn't take crap from him! Now the social worker, Damyanti's words make more sense, given the unpredictable temper that is Rudra's heritage from his dad. Even more glad that Paro has started anger management classes for Rudra, and that he is crazy enough about her to want to control his temper for her sake.
Though I did not understand how Dilsher's change of heart came about with Paro ... as I said earlier, that is a gap the cv's left ... they should have shown him slowly changing after his return. The abrupt change at virtually the first sight of Paro, was a bit difficult to fathom. They did show Dilsher seeing Paro tackle Rudra head on, take him on in battle ... and then shower him with love, despite his bitter tongue ... I feel the bitter angry Rudra, and his lashing out at Paro, reminded Dilsher of himself and Mala, and from a distance, he could see more clearly the mistakes he made with her, his faults mirrored in Rudra's roughness with Paro.
Loved Paro's arguments to Rudra about how he spoke to his mother ... it's all in the perception of events, isn't it? To an outsider, she was a widow, who went off with a strange man, her husband's killer, and then lived in his room ... what does that make her look like? Rudra was quick to negate that ... that's not true, he won't allow anyone to say anything malicious about Paro ... not even Paro herself. But that's what the world would say. And Rudra knows what the truth is, so he can be indignant on Paro's behalf. But he doesn't know the truth in his mother's case, which is why he's saying what he does about her. Dilsher does ... that's why Dilsher fired up in Mala's defense. Interesting parallels drawn there ... well done by Paro ... only Rudra was still not ready to hear it.
But after eavesdropping on Mala's story, I think he finally will. And then his world will shatter all over again ... deserted by his mother, then fed lies by his father ... did either of his parents ever want him or love him at all?
Interesting twist brought out by the cvs today ... while I was expecting Mala's story to justify her leaving, it was brave of the cvs to show a woman not putting up with abuse, and daring to leave her husband ... even more, daring to start a new life with another man. It would have been even better if they showed her happy with the second man, if he hadn't been a scoundrel like Tejawat, of course ... and returning to take her son back.
Still not clear how Mohini interfered between Mala and Dilsher ... or if she did at all. Or was her role limited to prodding Mala to leave, escape an abusive marriage ... and then prodding Dilsher to leave with Rudra before she came back? Dilsher lied to Mohini too, so Mohini did not know that he threw Mala out.
So the truth is finally out ... about time too!!! Dilsher married a beautiful, intelligent, sensitive woman ... he couldn't deal with his own failures and frustrations in life, and took it out on her. And when he had his accident, things worsened ... Mala took over the business, progressed it, and that hurt his male ego even more. Physically handicapped, now he was not even as smart as his wife ... she was better than him in that respect too. So of course, so much easier to attribute her success to her good looks, point fingers at her character ... because that was easier and more soothing to his male ego than to admit Mala was more capable than him. And when she left, that was the final blow ... he lied to his son, laid all the blame on Mala, and continued to let out his frustration and bitterness on his son for the next fifteen years.
And Mala found a soothing companion in Tejawat, someone who gave her respect and affection, who respected her wishes and her desires ... who seemed to have noble and poetic a soul as she did ... poor Mala, how badly she was mistaken on that last one! But compared to the rough, abusive Dilsher, the suave, smooth-talking loving Tejawat must have been like Prince Charming.
Still doesn't explain why Mala left Rudra for so many years ... agreed, Dilsher didn't let her take him with her ... but did she make any attempts to find him later? Guess that part will come out tomorrow.
The contrast between Paro and Mala was shown up ... Mala was weak, she put up with the abuse for fifteen years ... Paro is strong, she is stubborn, she answered Rudra back from day one ... and she doesn't take crap from him! Now the social worker, Damyanti's words make more sense, given the unpredictable temper that is Rudra's heritage from his dad. Even more glad that Paro has started anger management classes for Rudra, and that he is crazy enough about her to want to control his temper for her sake.
Though I did not understand how Dilsher's change of heart came about with Paro ... as I said earlier, that is a gap the cv's left ... they should have shown him slowly changing after his return. The abrupt change at virtually the first sight of Paro, was a bit difficult to fathom. They did show Dilsher seeing Paro tackle Rudra head on, take him on in battle ... and then shower him with love, despite his bitter tongue ... I feel the bitter angry Rudra, and his lashing out at Paro, reminded Dilsher of himself and Mala, and from a distance, he could see more clearly the mistakes he made with her, his faults mirrored in Rudra's roughness with Paro.
Loved Paro's arguments to Rudra about how he spoke to his mother ... it's all in the perception of events, isn't it? To an outsider, she was a widow, who went off with a strange man, her husband's killer, and then lived in his room ... what does that make her look like? Rudra was quick to negate that ... that's not true, he won't allow anyone to say anything malicious about Paro ... not even Paro herself. But that's what the world would say. And Rudra knows what the truth is, so he can be indignant on Paro's behalf. But he doesn't know the truth in his mother's case, which is why he's saying what he does about her. Dilsher does ... that's why Dilsher fired up in Mala's defense. Interesting parallels drawn there ... well done by Paro ... only Rudra was still not ready to hear it.
But after eavesdropping on Mala's story, I think he finally will. And then his world will shatter all over again ... deserted by his mother, then fed lies by his father ... did either of his parents ever want him or love him at all?
Interesting twist brought out by the cvs today ... while I was expecting Mala's story to justify her leaving, it was brave of the cvs to show a woman not putting up with abuse, and daring to leave her husband ... even more, daring to start a new life with another man. It would have been even better if they showed her happy with the second man, if he hadn't been a scoundrel like Tejawat, of course ... and returning to take her son back.
Still not clear how Mohini interfered between Mala and Dilsher ... or if she did at all. Or was her role limited to prodding Mala to leave, escape an abusive marriage ... and then prodding Dilsher to leave with Rudra before she came back? Dilsher lied to Mohini too, so Mohini did not know that he threw Mala out.
Nice take Diya. I really like your takes as you try to understand every POV of a character without being biased to just one character.
ReplyDeleteI feel very pity with Rudra. He was lied to all his life and never gotten any answer. His father was a pretty bad father and his mother, even though she did have every right to walk away from an abusive marriage, never really fight hard to take Rudra along with her. Maybe she did, but I think she didnt tried hard enough. But let's shall see maybe the writers will explain why Mala didnt fought for Rudra more. Altough I applaud the CVs for showing a woman who walks away from an abusive marriage I am sad that Dilsher seems to be totally at fault. I kind of loved his character so I wished the would have shown both equally at fault...
I love love how Paro is characterized and that in almost every situation she tries to see both side of a coin. I completely agree with you...Paro is such a strong character.
Lovely take Dia. And I loved today's episode even though there was not a single positive moment. One thing is confirmed in today's episode. The women of Ranawat family, both the older and the younger generation are more intelligent, more smarter and far more stable than the men. Both the sisters, Mohini and Mala seem to have a knack for business. Because both have been successful in business at some point of their lives. Maithili seems to be a submissive, meek type like Mala. But she is slowly evolving into a strong woman. In Maithili's case, her main horror is her saas, whereas for Mala, it was her husband. For the women in Mala's situation, there are two choices. The first choice is what Mala did. She took off with Tejawat. Since, I am not sure why she left Rudra or didn't fight Dilsher to claim custody of her son, I am reserving my comments on that count. I hope the CVs have a backup story for that as well. The second kind of women are the ones who stick to their married life, no matter how bitter it is. I am in two minds as to which choice is better. If what Mala did requires immense courage, then the women who choose the second option also must have great will and courage to stay with a bitter spouse and yet try to remain positive and optimistic.
DeleteParo was bang on when she confronted Rudra. That scene was just intense. Loved it so much, despite the lack of positivity, let alone romance. I remember watching the SBS/SBB segments of that scene. Both Ashish and Sanaya were laughing during the shot. Sanaya was complaining about Ashish laughing during her OS and the punching bag distracting her. Couldn't believe that the scene turned out this well. Hats off to both of them. Paro and Rudra never minced words during any of their face-offs. This is their greatest strength. Both of them state facts the way they are. Today, Rudra refuses to apologize to Mala initially. But he then makes up his mind to go talk to his mom. Probably, that is how he ended up listening to the saas-bahu conversation. Loved the way, he roared at Paro, when she started talking about her ex-hubby and her past. Yabbbbbaaaa.... The guy is damn too possessive. Whenever Paro tries to make him see sense, he rebuffs immediately. But like Dia said, he is so crazy about Paro that he is ready to mend his ways, if he feels Paro is right. Rudra reminds me of a quote from the movie - As Good as it gets. The male protagonist says to his girlfriend, "You make me want to be a better person". :) :)
Felt sorry for Rudra after today's episode. He is a perfect example of a child destroyed by two parents. A normal child who turned into a bitter man. Now that he knows the truth about his parents' relationship, where does it leave him? He would be all the more confused. Would be interesting to see how Paro manages him. I guess I will have to eat my words. :) The track just got more interesting today. I guess Paro should after all agree to Rudra's honeymoon suggestion. I would definitely want a break, if I had been in Rudra's shoes. :) :) Doesn't mean that I am running away from my problems like Rudra does. But a small, nice break would help clear my mind, so that I tackle my problems better.
About the interesting part of the episode, Mohini doesn't know some facts about Mala-Dilly relationship. Also, am curious to know Mohini's role in breaking their marriage. Not that Dilsher needed Mohini's help in ruining things. He managed to accomplish it by himself. Waiting to see Rudra's reaction after Mala's confession to Paro. Eagerly waiting for tomorrow's episode. :) :)