Tuesday, December 27, 2011

27/12 - Epi 151 ... Desi girl - the tigress

27th Dec Tues

My most favourite avatar of Sanaya .. low voiced fierce tigress ... no one does it better than her.
And Khushi is so used to Arnav's nastiness that if he were to be nice, she would probably fall through the floor with surprise. So today she didn't give way at all ... no more tears.

Arnav may be used to throwing business cocktail parties for foreign clients (though even they would appreciate Indian music at an Indian do far more than Thai music and dance), but he sure needs plenty of lessons on how to throw an enjoyable casual cocktail party.  Actually, am very confused - was this a personal do to let Payal and Akash spend time with each other, an official do to introduce Payal to their office clients, or a mix of both? A theme party, at least all the ones I've been to, is usually just for the costumes, decor and food ... what took the cake was the classical Thai dance!!! I guess this was put in to show that Arnav definitely has less experience of throwing casual parties, and just doesn't know how to get the enjoyment factor in. Okay, am being kind to Arnav here! Otherwise I really can't understand that part *rofl*
The jal jeera reminded me of how much we used to enjoy it at all our Diwali do'es in various countries ... never got it often enough!

Didn't like Khushi's introductory speech for her dance with all the desi vs videshi - don't rub it in so much, Khushi - not nice. But boy oh boy , she rocked the dance.

And the Arshi scene was so good ... Sanaya rocked it right through with her low firm tones, and her words, as nasty and cutting as Arnav's always are, spoken with a fierce polite intensity ... don't make the mistake of thinking that because I smile and dance and laugh, I don't hurt. I do. But I don't need to show the world my hurt, it's my own private business and it stays that way. As for forgetting my hurt about my broken engagement, excuse me, aren't you in the same boat? And yet you're the one throwing the party here - I'm just attending it.

Khushi was strong, collected, fierce all through ... she held her own ... right or wrong, she was here for her sister, because family, relationships, emotions were paramount for her. As for Arnav - she doesn't expect anything more from him, anything different ...for once giving it back to him in language that he understands, saying what she had to say and not losing her temper.

And Arnav's face ... Barun's expressions were spot on today. All anger gone ... did he finally remember why he broke his own engagement? Was it guilt, her words finding their mark? Or was he finally able to peek behind her mask, to see that she also wears one all the time, a mask which is far more difficult to don than the unsmiling, unforgiving angry one he wears all the time?

So he tells her he will drop her home, completely disregarding NK who's just made Khushi the same offer ... and Khushi refuses pointblank.

And the precap has Arnav finally losing control ... what was NK doing for so long alone with Khushi?!

One important fact disclosed by Khushi to Arnav today ... her family was deceived by her fiance. And their conversation - she stayed silent through his hurtful words, let him have his say completely for once. And when she spoke, he too finally actually listened to her. And then they both waited, backs to each other ... but waited ... in silence.

Is NK actually falling for Khushi? Uh oh ... that's a complication we could avoid, because he's shaping up to be quite a sweet guy!

17 comments:

  1. Barun, Sanaya & NK did a good job. It was a good dance performance, appreciate the actors there.

    Also appreciate the way she didnt cry and walk off but gave it back to him.

    Arnav: From his pov, during the farak padta hai track she was defending her fiance, then she breaks down and now she is dancing with random guys. I think that is what upset him, Yes, she crashed his party, made fun of him but what bugged him was her dancing with random guys in that way.

    He did not question her at her sister's engagement party, here the situation is different right. The choreography sucked, Credit to Sanaya for making it as classy as it did. The low hip saree, her moves this is not Khushi that I love. This was not her sister;s wedding. This was a private party where she danced infront of his and her jiju's friends. Yes, the people appreciated it, but these are the same people who got bored at the Thai dance.The whole party and people meehhh..

    I did not find that funny at all. Putting down another culture just to highlight ours is a strict no no. Anyway forget the dance, let me stick to Arhi.

    She talked he listened, he reflected. He talked, she listened, she talked back, did she reflect no.

    Khushi: The diabetes remark, again uncharacteristic in the sense I would expect her to crack that in presence of Arnav when they are alone not in front of others even if it is his cousin, a guy she barely knows.

    She asked him if he even knew what joy it is when you put a smile on other's face. Granted she did not know about the silver coins. But she knows right, this is the guy who paid for her dad's bills, this is the guy who helped her with her dad, when the G Ladies acted if they could care less (during payal's rishta)and most importantly this is the guy who brought all the doves for a little girl.

    The difference is remarkable, she is becoming him and he her.

    Yes, he should have thought the logic of him throwing the party for his bro cos he wanted them to be happy should have applied to her also. She came for her sister. Still this is an argument where without uttering a single word, he won.

    She says he doesn't care about relationships. She of all people should know his love for his di, the extent he went for Akash, the way he apologized to Payal.

    I am happy Khushi gave it back, but somewhere I felt I lost the Khushi I so dearly love, let me put it this way this was not Khushi's day for me.

    NK: NOOOOOOOO....Who wants to see Dabba Vey Yuck. Stick to being her friend.

    Precap AHA, Jealous Arnav, FINALLYYYYYYY. He can threaten Khushi or his family, why would NK put up with the threats, he is a relative and a guest, I am curious to know how he is going to answer Arnav? Would it be Chill Bro, Wont do it again, or would get irritated as he would be justified..Dude it is my phone, I am with my date, why are you invading my privacy and Waise bhi Tumhain kya farak padta hai?? Hai koi jawab ASR?

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  2. Shwetha,

    Okay ... Arnav - does he have any business minding who she dances with and whom she does not? If he does, that's his problem, not hers - he has told her time and again that she means nothing to him.

    The dance - Khushi dances when she's happy - she danced in the dhaba in public too, among strangers.

    And he has not bothered to ask her what went wrong with her fiance, when he is the only person apart from her family to have seen her so upset, she did tell him it was because of her fiance - and the next thing he knew, her engagement was off. He apparently never bothered to put two and two together - or even try to. So his engagement remark was extremely mean and uncalled for, and I didn't find Khushi out of place at all when she reminded him that his engagement had also broken and he was celebrating his brother's engagement - she was trying to do the same.

    The cocktail party - just watching the episode again and editing my post - I honestly feel that what the cv's tried to show was that Arnav has no experience organising casual enjoyable cocktail parties for friends, as he only does business do's. And before you get mad at that one *rofl* ... my hubby is a banker in an international bank, I have attended scores of very boring official cocktail parties filled with goras and Chinese, and they are all as slow and tiresome as the one shown today! I always try to find an excuse to avoid them! The casual ones we have among friends are always much more fun, with good old Bollywood music - even if we plan different themes, which we often do, the themes are usually limited to the food and decor, and costumes - if we want a fun time, the music always veers back to dance music so we can really enjoy ourselves. Okay, here there was a dance in addition - a filmy touch, actually, but in every party there are a few really good dancers who do move like that, and the rest of us are VERY happy to follow! In fact, it's those good dancers who really make the parties rock ... hayee, am remembering some of our most fun parties as I write this!

    So my take is that Arnav wanted to give a casual party for Akash and Payal - nowhere did he mention that it was to introduce Payal to their business associates - and he really doesn't know how to do it, because he has never thrown a party just for the fun of it.

    The diabetes remark - agree, not nice. But Khushi is hurting too ... he has been rude and demeaning about her suggestions, and she didn't exactly railroad him into taking them, she just suggested ... it's a party ostensibly for her sister too ... if Arnav is rude and mean and nasty, that's his character, if Khushi gives it back, she's lost her character? And Khushi has always given it back to Arnav - it was her quiet that was uncharacteristic.

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  3. contd ...

    As for her gloating over Arnav and telling him to thank her, it was her way of trying to preempt him ... because the moment he said he wanted to talk to her, she was prepared, she knew he would say something very hurtful and cutting, as usual. And she didn't want to cry again, she wanted to keep that smile on her face - her mask - as long as she was in the party. Watch her eyes - they get wary immediately, and her smile doesn't reach them, her voice is over-bright ... no way does she actually expect him to actually thank her. She is preparing to face his words without breaking down. She will cry only when back home in privacy in her own room.

    Does he understand relationships, she asks - isn't she justified in asking that, when he broke off his engagement at a moment's notice without any apparent reason to a girl who changed herself so much for him, when he saw her crying over her fiance, and still can tell her that she doesn't care about her broken engagement? Yes, he apologised to Payal, but has he ever once apologised to her? And he did far worse to her ... in fact, he continues to insult her, think and talk badly of her, including just now, when he brought up her engagement.

    Which is why I was glad she said everything she did ... that she didn't break down in public in front of everyone at the party - I did not expect her to do that. If he had taken her into private to speak to her, instead of right in the middle of the party, she might have broken, but not here, not now - Khushi is stronger than that - she doesn't even break in front of her own sister, so no way was she going to break down here, and I am glad it went this way - this WAS Khushi for me.

    But more than that, I was glad that she heard him out, and he then heard her out, without telling her to shut up or get out ... now THAT was the progress! The way they stood with their backs to each other, facing opposite ways, but standing still, as though even after all that has passed between them, both are unwilling to take that step away from each other ...

    We wanted to see Khushi maturing, but somewhere I always thought that Khushi would start walling up her emotions the way Arnav once had, going the way Arnav had done ... maybe seeing that is what will pull Arnav back, seeing Khushi on the way to becoming as bitter and cynical as he became ... because I always felt that part of his anger with Khushi was because she reminded him of what he once was, the untouched, untainted Arnav, who believed in love, in emotion, in family and faith ... and he was angry that she dared to stay that way despite everything he threw at her, while he had changed so much ... as though it showed him time and again that she was stronger than him, to have maintained her idealism while he lost his ... and now to see her start to lose hers unexpectedly hurts. He thought that would be his biggest victory, proof that he wasn't weak, but it will now start to be his defeat, because he can't stand to see her become another Arnav.

    That's why I am not disappointed with today ... *phew!!!* That was a long reply ... hope I made some sense! because the episode by and large made sense to me. :)))

    And yesss, I do want a jealous Arnav ... but not a seriously in love NK!

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  4. Dia, the first comment. See your point. No wonder people say sometimes it is good to sleep over things. A good night's sleep plus mornign coffee literally opens up the mind, lol.

    Yes, ussey kya farak padta hai. Like I said he should have applied the same logic towards her too. If he is doing it for his bro, she is there for her sis. Yes, he should have followed up on her fiance. My guess is when he did ask her on payash engagement, she refused to talk about it. So my guess is he wants to give her time but that does NOT excuse him for not pursuing the matter. Deserves a smack for that one.

    Diabetes remark. See the remark per se didn;t get me, as I mentioned I would expect her to crack one like that but when she involved NK I guess I was put off by that cos their fights, moments, jokes irrespective of who cracks them are theirs alone. Guess I am possessive of that. To be fair he did call her crazy infront of NK, SO I guess he deserved that one lol.

    At fun parties agree with you. To be honest, I somehow figured him to be a good host, actually wanted Khushi to see this side of him where he is good at what he is, guess that ain't happening. Lol, yours is a banker too.

    I was rooting for Khushi when she gave it back to him. She didnt walk off or avoid, infact he did cos it hurt OUCH.

    DIA, Totally with you. I too figured one of the reason why he is always mad at her cos she reminds him of his best moments in life, how once he was. And an apology from him is loooong due maybe that sets of the rabba ve in motion.

    Again with you, like I said she is becoming him and the moment he realizes it he will fight like hell to stop her from going down that path and not lose the essence of herself like he did.

    Progress: OH YEAH. They listened to each other without cutting off each other. Infact of late he has become extremely patient with her, he hears her out more than she does and tries to explain. Even though it would take time for him to admit it, her opinions, her state of mind matter to him a lot.

    So you made perfect sense dia and I totally see and get it. I am glad she is venting out, she never gets to do that with the G Family. He is the only guy who genuinely loves her for what she is without any expectation, know what I mean? The convo was about them and themselves alone. He also realizes that for her too, he matters, not his family, money. So in that sense they genuinely care about each other.

    Sooo looking forward for a jealous Arnav. I would love it if she avoids him, ignores him, stops talking to him, stops going to his room and he gets irritated that she does the above right in his home.

    What did you think about Payal's behaviour in the party?

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  5. Shwetha,

    Am so glad you thought I made some sense ... for once I watched the episode without seeing the forum, 'cos I was out till almost episode time, and I enjoyed it a lot. I did have a problem with Khushi at one point - when she made her announcement before her dance - the words were not in good taste - she should have said something to the effect - after enjoying videsi flavors and the beauty of other countries, let's celebrate our own flavors too ... that would not have demeaned the Thai performance. And again, like you, I feel she and Arnav should keep their encounters private between the two of them - didn't mind NK because Arnav started it by being rude to her and calling her crazy in front of him.

    I wrote such a long comment, blogger threw me out! - had to post in two parts ;-) Still have a couple more points in Khushi's favour, and one against ;-) but am rushing out again, will add more when I get back later.

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  6. Dia, I watch it live.My first reaction was she gave it right back, loved her for it. My problem was the things she accused him of, she knows damn well it was not true. Now Arnav is guilty of doing the same, all the aukat, money crap he dished at her knowing damn well it was not true. So Karma is catching up with ODB.

    Is it too much to ask for him to call her back after his confrontation with NK? Maybe even a little bit more, he snatches the car keys, battles the delhi fog and goes to G Home and asks her to come out cos he wants to talk to her? Even more that he sees her when she looks her best at her home clothes? Too much, I know.

    Will wait for your Additions:)

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  7. Hey Dia.......nice discussion you guys are having here.......
    i have mixed reactions for last nite's episode.........didn't like the diabetes jab......it negates all the concern she showed earlier bt his being daibetic.......

    its nice to know that she is becoming more confident about herself, hence a bit of bold dance....but it doesn't seem convincing as the girl was so embarrased when her dupatta fell of in front of Arnav in the jungle....and now she is gyrating to music like a pro dancer, infront of the whole crowd.....

    also found her remark about him not being able to make people smile, is totally out of place.......how can she forget the little girl with pigeon incidence...he bought all the pigeons just to make the girl happy, infact he doesn't even believe in the girls method of wishing...still he helped her...

    and i thought khushi always wanted to see the good in others, doesn't she want to see shyam improving hence giving him a chance to work on his marriage with anjali...
    so why does she keep forgetting bt Arnav's kind gestures...there are so many...paying for her father's hospital bill...offering her family help, even before payash rishta happened (during the diwali night episode)...hitting the goon just cause he pushed khushi a bit...caring for khushi when she was ill, during the nainital trip...why does she only remember his get outs...
    is this a flaw in her character sketch, doesn't seem like that when she interacts with the other characters...she doesn't have a grudge against buaji who forced her into an unwanted engagement...didn;t hold a grudge against LA...so why only Arnav...is it her way of avoiding the feelings she have for him...

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  8. Geetu,

    Why does Khushi only remember Arnav's get outs? ... because he blows so hot and cold with her, that's why. Everybody else is consistently the same with her, be it Buaji, Mami, La both before and after she reformed ... with Arnav, she never knows where she is. And more often than not, he is nasty ... why did he have to be so rude about her inputs about the cocktail party?

    Everybody is angry with Khushi for interfering in Arnav's party ... well, after throwing innumerable parties for friends, including welcome do's, birthday do's, farewell do's, a few cardinal rules when you have a guest of honour at a party -

    1) ASK THEM whom they would like on their guest list - ALWAYS, ALWAYS ... after all, it's a party FOR them, right? At farewell do's I have been to, be they official or casual, the guest list is decided BY the person who is leaving ... similarly, when we hold birthday parties, we include the special friends of the birthday boy/girl, as well as any relatives or friends visiting - we live outside India, so visiting family is always included ... this is simply good manners as well as the correct protocol. And to exclude the real sister of the bride at a CASUAL bash for friends - this was young people only, remember - sorry, NOT done!

    2) Make sure the guest of honor is comfortable and you look after the things that matter to them - could be simple things like deciding the color theme for a friend's party - for one friend, we went with blue, because it was HER favorite color, for another, we chose an Arabic theme because they were leaving the country in Middle East where we were living at the time ... in this case, Payal WOULD be uncomfortable with a very sophisticated Western theme, so adding a few desi touches was not such a big deal at all. The only reason Arnav didn't do it was because the suggestion came from Khushi - pure bloody-mindedness (am not bashing Arnav for this, this was totally in character for him). This was a do to introduce Payal to their friends, NOT their business associates ... she was the only stranger, so making HER comfortable was the first priority.

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  9. contd (my comments are becoming longer than my blog entry ;-)

    As for dancing ... as I said to Shwetha earlier, Khushi danced among strangers at a dhaba with no problem, why does dancing in a private party with her jeejaji's friends hold such a stigma? Only because it was a solo number and yes, it was choreographed - would it have made things better if she had danced with her usual crazy steps or the way she danced to Ooh Lala? But since this is a show, her dance was properly choreographed, that's all. Dancing is very much in character for her.

    She wants to see good in Shyam because he has been nothing but apologetic after being found out, has been all meek and mild and obsequious, and not put a foot wrong ... she has seen Buaji and listened to her rants since childhood, Buaji is consistent in her behaviour with Khushi ... she doesn't seek any good in mami, she has no expectations from her at all.

    And I agree with Shwetha, she does know that Arnav has done some nice things also, but he has made her cry a lot too, and never apologised for his unfairness ever, or for accusing her of things he knows are not true, like being a gold digger, aukat crap etc ... so yes, it's coming back to bite him ... let him also see what it feels like to be accused of things which are not true.

    AS for the remark about his not believing in emotions - he told her that himself when he went to deal with Mami ... she was repeating his own remarks back to him - that YOU said emotions don't mean anything, only deal making does.
    And Arnav seems to have the same blindness when it comes to Khushi - he always finds something new to accuse her off ... now the aukad business is gone because his brother is marrying her sister, so he gets on to 'your behaviour is inappropriate for someone who's engagement just broke.' So for BOTH of them it's their way of avoiding the feelings they have for each other. I said on this blog a few days back that Khushi is as much in denial of her feelings as Arnav is, and because of La, she is going to take even more time to face them now.

    I have absolutely no problems with Arnav's rudeness, I just don't understand why Khushi isn't given the same leeway? Isn't she entitled to feel hurt? And she does ... she always feels hurt by Arnav, deeply hurt ... her smile and her hitting back is her defence against that hurt. Why does she never bother to reply back to Mami who says the same things?

    The problem is that Khushi is REALLY NOT the typical SP heroine ... who will cry in a corner and suffer all the crap the hero dishes out ... and people apparently have a major problem with that. It's ok for Arnav to be rude and opinionated, it isn't ok for Khushi to be opinionated? Sorry, I have a major problem with that. If she's hitting back at him, good for her - let him realise how much his words hurt her, because although she told him that his words hurt his family and La, she will never tell him that they hurt her equally, because she cares for him as much as they do.

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  10. Shwetha,

    Apparently there is a Rabba Ve coming up, so maybe your wish will come true ... actually I had the same thought ... after Arnav has this major fight with NK coming back late, will he go off to see for himself if Khushi is all right? And I went further - I was imagining him hiding near her house, seeing her hurt, in tears at his words, and then hear her swear to herself that she will not let him hurt her again, or better still, she will stay away from him ... I really want him to know how much his words hurt her, because she never shows it to him otherwise.

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  11. Dia,

    Want a lame answer for the dhaba thing...ASR was not single then and was not jealous of young guys In dhaba it was more like uncle and auntyjis who were dancing with her, lol.

    Like geeta made a very good point, arguing with each other is an excellent way of avoiding the truth about their feelings.

    Both accuse the other of things knowing fully well they are wrong, the accusations sounding hollow probably to themselves.

    The director said rabba ve is a new year gift so I am guessing it will get aired on Monday.

    So what will happen today, think either of the two will apologize? Khushi is usually the first one to say sorry if she feels she needs to apologize. Technically she has just given a taste of his own bitter medicine *pun intended* will she hold her ground or melt if he calls her up? Or will the new found Sorry Expert who is extremely comfortable to saying sorry to all the people except to the person he owes the most make the initiative.

    Or will it be swept under and ignore, new day, new fight, new romance maybe?

    Dia, sorry for asking again what did you think of Payal in the whole party?

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  12. Shwetha,

    I don't think Arnav will apologise, and neither will Khushi ... both are adamant! He will still feel annoyed that she spoilt his party ... she didn't gatecrash, she was invited by NK, so that peeve is gone! And although her reason for attending was ostensibly for Payal, especially after Payal's phone, Buaji's words, and then NK's call giving her the opportunity - yep, she would not have done anything if NK had not called at that opportune moment - although Payal was her ostensible reason, she definitely enjoyed being at the party and getting a bit of her own back at Arnav! So she's not going to say sorry for that!

    So I'm really wondering how a Rabba ve will happen! Will he call her? Or just land up at her house? Or do nothing ... as usual?! Maybe not this time, with NK in the picture *rofl* Maybe I'm hoping for too much!

    Payal is a wimp ... she knew Khushi was up to something, but she didn't stop her - not strongly enough, and then she waited for Akash's reaction - once he was okay with Khush's dance, she relaxed ... understandable in a way, I guess. But she happily went off with Akash without checking whether Khushi wanted to come home with them? So all in all, Payal was very very blah ...

    what did you think?

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  13. Ya me too guessing, no sorry but a new chapter with both giving murderous looks to the other, ahh, that would be something. And more would be the verbal sarcasm they would employ considering both are pretty good at it. *i am so looking forward to that*

    I HOPE HE GOES TO HER HOME*That would be awwww, he can see her upset and she can realize he came just for her*

    You know if Payal had assured her that she was fine atleast after going to the party, Khushi would have stayed away.

    Makes you wonder na, when the time comes would she support Khushi or would she wait until she sees the R FAMILY reaction first.

    Wednesday is here, so something good should happen right.

    Oh btw, I hope i am not bugging you too much with my comments, lol.

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  14. this is a really interesting bog, its like re-watching the serial but with more detail, also i think that arnav deserved khushi's reply, simply because when he talked about her broken engagement, he wasn't angry, which would excuse the words slightly, as he may not have meant it, he actually looked amused as he saw how he was hurting her like he knew those words would, that is why he deserved her wrath

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  15. Shwetha, you are not bugging me AT ALL .. loving your comments here ... this place is far more peaceful for discussions than the forum!

    Wed episode ... none of our wishes about Arnav going to check on Khushi came true :( the guy is a tougher nut to crack than that!

    Anonymous, hmm, interesting pov ... right, he wasn't angry, or if he was, he was controlling it very well ... he meant the words to hurt her and was waiting for that hurt ... maybe that's why he did feel bad today and tried to apologise ... another thing I thought would not happen!
    Btw, what can I call you?

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  16. yes, today was interesting lmao, the way he said, "it doesn't take that long to drop khushi home," i guess he thought he knew, considering it's normally his job, then again, perhaps it takes longer when one actually drops her all the way home? also, you can call me sonu

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  17. also, which time zone are you in? because i live in the uk and idk when you actually write these updates

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