Tuesday 25th June
More on traditions ... this time, breaking them.
Lemon tea is apparently breaking a tradition. Problem for Umaben is that every time Chhanchhan breaks a tradition or brings in her own idea, one or the other son supports it. Manek supported the idea of gur with the rotlas. Manthan found nothing different in Ranjana's rotis ... obviously, there was nothing different to find.
And today, Mukut liked the lemon tea. Earned a couple of Brownie points. So did Manthan and Manek.
But Mukut is not ready yet for his wife to sit with him and have a cup of tea. Uh oh ... he just lost his Brownie points.
Babuji decrees that Manav is a married man, he should start working in the office. Good thing too. About time.
Umaben sees that Chhanchhan is finding her feet in the family, and she's even observing all the traditions while doing so, however troublesome it is for her. Time to stir up more trouble. Manav is obviously useless for the moment ... he's too busy trying to flirt with his wife under everyone's eyes. No trouble to be made there ... yet.
So Umaben sweet-talks a surprised Chhanchhan ... another break of tradition ... Chhanchhan can wear salwar suits ... Umaben is a wonderful saas, and CC is her laadli bahu, after all. A quick snide one about CC not having learned how to wear a saree at her maayka is thrown in almost out of habit.
CC is perfectly willing to observe the customs of the house ... she's a new bahu, after all ... but Umaben insists. CC can wear suits.
Next step of the battle plan ... Umaben moans to the other how Chhanchhan has refused to wear sarees, and has decreed she will henceforth wear suits. And Umaben is helpless ... Manav will not listen to anyone over Chhanchhan, so suits it is for CC.
Inciting exactly the response that Umaben wants ... RS storm off to their respective husbands to demand their suit rights. Kaumudi is surprised that Chhanchhan could say such a thing.
Hmm ... Umaben told blatant lies in Purvi's wedding as well ... this is not such a surprise after all. I didn't think UB would resort to this, though .. thought she would leave it to RS's natural instincts to complain when they saw CC in a salwar suit. But she felt it necessary to strike the matchstick to the waiting flames herself. UB might just have overplayed her hand here.
Family council of war in the hall ... the brothers put forward their wives' complaints ... why are the rules not the same for all? Babuji decides to put his foot down, while Umaben plays the helpless, downtrodden wife and mother ... what can I do? She is from a different sort of family ...
Manav is a bit surprised at the calls for Chhanchhan ... CC is getting ready, should I call her? What's the problem?
Umaben doesn't want to tell him the problem, of course ... no way!
So they wait ...
Am almost sure CC will emerge in a saree ....
But precap ... I think now is when Chhanchhan will start realising that something is fishy under all the sweetness and honey ... why is no one allowed to help her make a meal? And Kaumudi tells her that no one has ever dared to contradict Umaben's word ... so will that start her realisation ... no one except Chhanchhan ...
More articles on Chhanchhan ... the buzz has started again, hopefully this means the show is picking up.
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/entertainment/tv/A-clash-between-tradition-and-modernity/articleshow/20759595.cms - finally an article about the show and not the recent replacement drama.
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/entertainment/tv/Would-love-to-work-in-films-like-Sadma-Anuj-Sachdeva/articleshow/20778675.cms
http://www.india-forums.com/tellybuzz/wassup/15513-manav-and-chhanchhan-off-for-a-honeymoon.htm
More on traditions ... this time, breaking them.
Lemon tea is apparently breaking a tradition. Problem for Umaben is that every time Chhanchhan breaks a tradition or brings in her own idea, one or the other son supports it. Manek supported the idea of gur with the rotlas. Manthan found nothing different in Ranjana's rotis ... obviously, there was nothing different to find.
And today, Mukut liked the lemon tea. Earned a couple of Brownie points. So did Manthan and Manek.
But Mukut is not ready yet for his wife to sit with him and have a cup of tea. Uh oh ... he just lost his Brownie points.
Babuji decrees that Manav is a married man, he should start working in the office. Good thing too. About time.
Umaben sees that Chhanchhan is finding her feet in the family, and she's even observing all the traditions while doing so, however troublesome it is for her. Time to stir up more trouble. Manav is obviously useless for the moment ... he's too busy trying to flirt with his wife under everyone's eyes. No trouble to be made there ... yet.
So Umaben sweet-talks a surprised Chhanchhan ... another break of tradition ... Chhanchhan can wear salwar suits ... Umaben is a wonderful saas, and CC is her laadli bahu, after all. A quick snide one about CC not having learned how to wear a saree at her maayka is thrown in almost out of habit.
CC is perfectly willing to observe the customs of the house ... she's a new bahu, after all ... but Umaben insists. CC can wear suits.
Next step of the battle plan ... Umaben moans to the other how Chhanchhan has refused to wear sarees, and has decreed she will henceforth wear suits. And Umaben is helpless ... Manav will not listen to anyone over Chhanchhan, so suits it is for CC.
Inciting exactly the response that Umaben wants ... RS storm off to their respective husbands to demand their suit rights. Kaumudi is surprised that Chhanchhan could say such a thing.
Hmm ... Umaben told blatant lies in Purvi's wedding as well ... this is not such a surprise after all. I didn't think UB would resort to this, though .. thought she would leave it to RS's natural instincts to complain when they saw CC in a salwar suit. But she felt it necessary to strike the matchstick to the waiting flames herself. UB might just have overplayed her hand here.
Family council of war in the hall ... the brothers put forward their wives' complaints ... why are the rules not the same for all? Babuji decides to put his foot down, while Umaben plays the helpless, downtrodden wife and mother ... what can I do? She is from a different sort of family ...
Manav is a bit surprised at the calls for Chhanchhan ... CC is getting ready, should I call her? What's the problem?
Umaben doesn't want to tell him the problem, of course ... no way!
So they wait ...
Am almost sure CC will emerge in a saree ....
But precap ... I think now is when Chhanchhan will start realising that something is fishy under all the sweetness and honey ... why is no one allowed to help her make a meal? And Kaumudi tells her that no one has ever dared to contradict Umaben's word ... so will that start her realisation ... no one except Chhanchhan ...
More articles on Chhanchhan ... the buzz has started again, hopefully this means the show is picking up.
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/entertainment/tv/A-clash-between-tradition-and-modernity/articleshow/20759595.cms - finally an article about the show and not the recent replacement drama.
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/entertainment/tv/Would-love-to-work-in-films-like-Sadma-Anuj-Sachdeva/articleshow/20778675.cms
http://www.india-forums.com/tellybuzz/wassup/15513-manav-and-chhanchhan-off-for-a-honeymoon.htm
Dia,
ReplyDeleteI watched the epi in bits...hoping to catch the full epi..
I hope CC gets out off that saree soon- CC managing that pallu is reminding me of Khushi during Sheetal track....
Went through the discussions on yesterday's post...
I wonder if they have lost the characterisation a bit here.
When Manav fell in love, did he expect his wife to wear sarees- that too, a girl like CC who walks her dogs in the morning?
'You will learn!'- This is what a guy who walked out of his house for his love, would say in the very first few days of his marriage?
CC herself- a girl who is used to speaking her own mind- why does she feel she has to wear a saree? For a munh Dikhayi or any other function, it would be understandable- but on a daily basis? I understand she wants to try her best to adjust to the sasuraal- may be it is too alien a concept for me. I thought a girl like CC would dress according to her comforts...does she think she can live her entire life under the pallu?
Is this what happens in reality? So when Manasi gets married, she loses her right to wear a salwar kameez? Not criticising the show and not debating about the rights...just wondering if all this is real in our times and in relation to a modern bahu.
Anyway, I want CC to take up that offer and shift to suits ASAP.
And may be, like you all said, Manav will realise that CC should dress comfortably later on (I wish they hadn't even shown that issue being taken to him- since he had no solution to it...would have been better if it had stayed between the women..) ...more than that, I hope they show CC realising that there is only so much you can sacrifice for the sake of traditions and sentiments. She has to live her entire life there! (Imagine the shock of her parents, if they see her like this!)
I sincerely hope this is all coming to the Pallu system getting eradicated from the BS family.
Hi Su..
Deleteto answer two of ur questions :
1. 'does this happen in real life?' - yes, unfortunately it does..and I am talking abt wearing a saree with pallu everyday..it so does. My own second cousin got married to a gujju family and she willingly took over the custom to wear a saree everyday and a pallu over her head and I am talking abt not less than 5 yrs ago.. So yes, these kind of traditions are still in ample amounts in families..
2. 'why does cc feel she has to wear a saree?' - cc does not think it is all that bad to wear a saree..which is why she also thinks abt readymade sarees..she likes the concept of sarees in general, but has never learnt how to wear them..also, when she tells manav abt the mishap, she doesnt complain abt having to wear a saree, but having to manage a heavy saree..
so continuing from my last sentence above, obviously, manav has no clue that chanchan is uncomfy in sarees because she has just complained abt having to manage a saree..and his statement to her 'u will learn' was infact quite encouraging..all throughout his life he has seen married women in his house wearing sarees, plus he has seen chanchan's mom and her dadi wear sarees..obviously his thought process is that a girl after marriage switches to sarees..which is why the thought didnt even occur to him that chanchan might want to wear something other than sarees.. Just because a girl doesnt wear trad clothes before marriage doesnt mean she will continue to do so after marriage.. Also, chanchan was shown to wear all sorts of clothes and not just jeans..she even wore salwar suits and she did wear a saree for purvi's wedding right at the beginning of the show..so obviously manav knows she wears a saree..but doesnt realise that the frequency bothers her..or is a bit too much for her at times..which he will learn with time..
I was going to reply to Su ... mads did it for me :)))
DeleteExactly .. the first time Manav saw CC, she was in a saree, he saw her again in the orphanage in a saree ... so he was surprised she fell at home. And CC has no problem wearing sarees as such, she is just not fully comfortable in them yet. She didn't complain to Manav that she doesn't want to wear sarees, only tried to explain that it was heavy and that's why she fell. She was embarrassed about the mistakes she made, and also that she embarrassed Umaben in front of her guests.
Also ... this is just TWO DAYS after the wedding ... many girls ARE expected to wear sarees for at least the first few days and dress like new brides. My in-laws were most liberal about dressing, and I could wear jeans and skirts in front of them from day one ... but the first few days before we left on our honeymoon, I wore sarees every day, that too, slightly heavy ones, not the every day wear type of sarees. My MIL did not dictate at all what I wore, but she loved to see me dress up for the visitors who kept dropping in the first few days. I dropped the sarees when I got back from honeymoon and went back to work ...
We were discussing this on the forum as well ... many people did have similar experiences, and most said that even when the in-laws insisted at first, after some time, once the girl settled in, she went into suits and western clothes ... for conservative homes, it took a few years, but like in my case, it was within a few weeks.
I hope the pallu system does get eradicated ... but worse than that is the tradition that the bahus cannot sit at the same table and eat ... and apparently they cannot even sit and have a cup of tea with their husbands or the rest of the family. That is more demeaning ... I hope CC raises her voice against that first.
But first she needs to settle into her new home ... she can't start raising morchas from day one. She has already brought in two changes - rotimaker and lemon tea ... good for the first day :)))
Thanks, Mads and Dia,
DeleteI guess it is just beyond my experience that a girl who is used to wearing jeans would shift to sarees- that too with pallu... I don't have anything against sarees. It is the pallu that bothers me more. And I agree that for the first few days, a newly wed wears sarees.
For curiosity sake: Mads, Your second cousin could easily adjust to pallus after having worn jeans and frocks most of her life?
Manav: I guess I don't understand the Gujju concept- but a boy who is this out going, does not realise that CC does not fall in the same bracket as his SILs? I mean, Ranjana and Sanjana would have never worn anything more modern than a salwar suit...and Kaumudi looks like she said Alvida to Salwar in her 10th standard...if she has studied up to that..
Dia,
I watched the whole episode...
I had a problem with the lemon tea- I wouldn't serve black tea to a family that is used to having tea with milk...found it very odd that the SILs did not correct CC constantly with the 'Baa will not like it'-and that CC took such a great liberty so soon. I mean, I wouldn't welcome it if my MIL served me lemon tea with all its health benefits- I am simply used to having it with milk...and a cup of chai in the morning- seriously, that is what starts the day- I wouldn't like it if anyone tried to change my routine there. May be because I am passionate about my chai. :D
Managed to convince myself that CC wouldn't know how passionate and particular some people are about their morning tea.
Loved the way both the bahus scooted off to complain, like kids- esp Manthan and his wife.
Also, I somehow like UB, even when she is not making any sense..if CC wears Salwar and everyone revolts, won't she simply say- 'Baa told me to'???
Any way, she is wearing salwar in the new promo - the honey moon waala one- Thank God! (I personally feel the crowd who will be watching CC will be diff from that watching DABH or any saas- bahu saga, and most of them will be more comfortable seeing CC in a salwar at least.)
Saw SBS: Sanaya looks tired...Anuj is cute. They share a good chemistry!